Does she have the right to be upset?

Question

Yesterday I walked in on my girlfriend cheating on me with some bloke. I wasn't too annoyed b/c I was kind of bored with the way things were going. Anyway, I walked right out her place and called up one of her co-workers, one of the Auditors actually who had been giving me a bit of attention for the past 3 months(although we hadn't done anything). We had a drink, talked a bit and shagged.

Can you believe that she's got the nerve to be upset with me now as if I had done something wrong or cheated on HER?! Where's the logic in that?!

Answer 1

lol... this is coming from a woman.. *a pat on the back for you* weldone! ignore the selfish b!tch end it and move on.

Answer 2

HI Superspooner. You either have no understanding of the word LOGIC or you use it just to fill in the gaps as if you were totally innocent. It seems to me that this relationship was on it's way out as both of you were seeing someone else. It just happened it was you who caught her in the act, not the other way around. But did you create a fuss? no, you just walked out the door and called your lover with whom you claim for the past 3 months "did nothing" but have a drink, have a talk and lastly have sex with her coworker, if that is nothing, then I must live my life doing nothing with my girlfriend apart from watching TV and going out to dinner. I guess you both have a right to be angry at each other for the deception and disrespect you have shown each other. I suggest you, both cut your losses and go your separate ways as it seems there is no love between you. Best wishes. Peter

Answer 3

Hey it's eye for an eye ..you already thought u 2 broke up after u walked in on her cheating. (this is funny, think about it, well it will be after a while). The reason shez probably mad is b/c therez now prob gonna be drama at her workplace, but other than that, let her be mad man, lets face it you cant tell her how to feel. And as far as logic goes, she dosent seem to have it. You prob dont want her bak, so now therez no point of getting upset over something pointless.

Answer 4

Never do to others what you wouldn't like done to yourself is what you should remind her of I think.

However,two wrongs don't make a right,but what's done is done,so you should both either forget whats happened and move on or end it if the trust is gone,cos without trust,you have nothing,well nothing that will make you happy long term anyway.

She's bound to be upset,but can't really complain much after you caught her at it first,tell her you did it out of anger to get back at her for how she hurt you.

Stay together,trust and be faithful or go your separate ways is what I suggest.

Answer 5

Well, as a female, I would look at this as something that was meant to break the boredom between the two of you. Although I personally think she's out of her mind for thinking that you are to be blamed and screamed at for what you did, I also think you shouldn't have shagged her friend to get revenge. Seriously, did that really fix your relationship?

But I'm not blaming you. It's human nature, if that's what you call it. I think you both need to fix things up. If nothing works, then go your separate ways. Good luck.

Answer 6

I don't know if she is upset with the fact that you went and done it with another women or the fact that you didn't react the way she thought you would.

You said that you were bored with the relationship and maybe she felt that, but that's no excuse for her to jump in bed with the next man and for you to do same...with a women I meant.

The pair of you need to grow up. It's a bit tit for tat don't you think?

How are you ever going to mend your relationship, if thats what you intend to do?
because if ever another argument arose, trust me this will always be brought up.

"you did this!"
"yeah? well you did that!"
"but you did it first!"
"well I wouldn't have done it if you hadn't done that!"

Answer 7

She's upset because you've just aired her dirty laundry in her work place and you said this other woman was an Auditor right? Well they have a habbit of making things messy. Good job on your part.

Have a nice day!

Answer 8

What you did was passive aggressive. Why choose to "shag" one of her coworkers? You should have just been a man, ended the relationship with the woman and moved on with your life. Now you get the crown for being a drama queen because of what you did. Nice going using her coworker to get back at your girlfriend. Sounds like you and your girlfriend really deserve each other. Both of you have boundary issues and probably should stay together to protect the rest of the world from people like yourselves.

Answer 9

Absolutely not!!! She has no right to be upset with you because she cheated on YOU. If there's anyone that needs to be upset it's you not her. She sounds like one of those bratty girls who thinks it's all about them and you need to ditch her. Find someone else that's going to respect you and love you because girls like this don't deserve a good man. There is no logic in that. She just wants some attention that's it.

Answer 10

she does have a right to be upset, because you cheated on her.
girl's have loads of things going round there head's all the time. emotional things. maybe she's just feeling emotional, and you weren't giving her the support she needed so she found someone else and ended up sleeping with them accidentally and then you didn't talk it over with her but went and slept with someone else and didn't seem to care about her any more..haha nice little story there. but maybe that's the kind of thing that happened.

maybe not, and maybe she needs to grow up, but there'llbe a reason there, i can guarantee it!

Answer 11

both were wrong but once she decided to cheat the things were done and over with you know so when u went out to do ur dirt she had no right to be mad at you say good bye thank her for the memory adn tell her she will miss ur butt!!