I was married for 7 years and have a child from the union. We had a court officer come to our house to officiate the marriage. Unfortunately I had to end it after years of emotional abuse. I could not be any happier now that I am mature enough to know I met my soulmate, even my son is really excited!! Now we are planning a summer wedding and my first religious marriage. I am looking at brides magazines and I see all those beautiful white gowns and ask myself if it would be in good taste to wear one or should I just pick another color?
2007-12-27 02:19:11 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
wear what ever makes u happy , its your day
2007-12-27 02:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 9⤊ 5⤋
It would be perfectly acceptable seeing as white was never the colour for purity anyway (it's only deeply religious people that hold that view) the tradition for brides wearing white only became fashionable after Queen Victoria wore white, it was more of a status symbol as only the wealthy could afford to keep white clean, blue has always been the colour for purity. Brides in other cultures wear red and they use white as a funeral colour. I think if you want a white dress then you should wear a white dress.
2007-12-27 22:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would not be weird at all. I know they say you aren't supposed to wear white if you were previously married or have a child, but I do not think that matters really anymore. It is just an old-fashioned saying. I have a daughter, and her father and I are marrying in a few months. I am wearing a beautiful white gown. So, I would say go for what makes you happy. This is your day, and I wouldn't care what others think about the color of the gown!
2007-12-27 03:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by HRiCHxO 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Tradition is.........if you have been married before, when you remarry that you should wear an off white, or beige colored dress. But if you feel that this marriage is going to be a lasting one, or more meaningful than the first one, wear the white so 10-20 yrs from now when you look at the wedding photos, it'll give you the memories as if this was actually your first wedding. I've had 2 court marriages, but if I were to do it again, it would definently be a church wedding, but with the off white. Good Luck!
2007-12-27 03:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by TexanNFLGirl 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
white doesnt mean what it use to...now its just a symbol of being the bride. But if u dont want to wear white there is always ivory or a simple summer dress with ur favorite colors in it.
2007-12-27 20:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dunkyin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure go for it , i would be disapointed if you didn't .... live your dream, it is only a little white dress :0 )
you are a new person now and your past shouldn't effect your future
I feel the whole officiant thing without a real ceromony doesn't really give you the true feeling of being married in the first place , I have been there and done that and now getting married again the proper way and yes I am wearing a white dress and having a beautiful wedding.
2007-12-27 04:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by la de da 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wearing white is fine, just not a big wedding dress. Find something simple and appropriate. More on the style of an modest evening gown, maybe.
2007-12-27 23:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
White for wedding dresses does not symbolize purity. White was originally used for wedding dresses to show wealth. So many of our wedding customs have been arbitrarily created. Make your own customs. Wear what you want. If you want a white flowing dress, wear one! It's you and your fiance's day.
You should be applauded for getting out of an abusive relationship. Congratulations on finding a good man! Wear your white dress and marry him!!
2007-12-27 02:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Natty 5 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I say go with the dress you love. How many people actually follow through with all the traditions of a wedding? I am going on my second marriage and will wear white regardless of what people think.
This is your first formal wedding. I say have at it!
2007-12-27 03:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I'm sure I'll catch a lot of crap for my answer, but this is my opinion...
I've always been pretty traditional. Although there are a select few wedding traditions and etiquette rules I can step over, this isn't really one of them. Many people will say "It's your day, do what you want" and that traditions are outdated. Personally, I think there's a reason why we have these traditions and these etiquette rules. They serve as the perfect guidelines. There are a few rules that can be tweaked to today's standards, but to be perfectly honest, I think you should wear an off-white or ivory dress instead. There are so many beautiful choices out there and I'm sure you'll find the perfect one!
Good luck in your decision!
EDIT: See what I mean? Two thumbs down already. All for trying to help.
2007-12-27 02:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 6⤋
There's at least one woman on y!a that thinks she's a wedding planner who will tell you it's wrong. But that's because she doesn't really know the real reason for wearing white. I'd google it and paste it but too lazy. Long story short, wear whatever color you want...white included. Hell, my dress is white, and I don't even remember being a virgin!
2007-12-27 03:08:07 · answer #11 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋