my 4 boys make to much noise says next door?

Question

the pepole next door came round to my door and told me to shut up my 4 boys aged 2 -7 how can i do this and i have the same problem when there playing in back yard also thay have brought there house and i rent had problems since i moved in next to them what can i do thanks

Suzita its them times you put that there on about my kids are in bed at 7pm every night and up at 7.30am thay said im a no good parent there just kids playing

i was told thay moved in this area for a quiet life but the area is family estate full of young kids, i was told thay have ran a few familys out of this house im going no were my kids are quite well behaved for boys, i was to gob smacked to say anything back to them

Answer 1

your neighbors got a serious problem,you have 4 boys and noise is what they are all about,i think you should go round with a box of chocs and explain to your neighbor that you will do your best to keep the noise down but boys will be boys.

Answer 2

Here are some suggestions that you may or may not like.

1) talk to your neighbors and see if they are well. If one is very ill and needs an afternoon nap, perhaps you can arrange for an hour or so that the kids can do something more quiet. Now, before you say my kids no way. We have neighbors with new borns and my kids and their friends like to play in the pool and woke the baby. We agree to a quiet time, they stopped complaining and the kids still have their loud time.

2) listen and see if your kids are really excessively noisey. Just possible. If so, try talking to the kids. If not, ask the neighbors to tell you exactly what it is they object to. Objects being thrown in their yards, etc. If they are unreasonable, tell them so (but be fair).

3) 7:30 is a very reasonable inside time. How close are the houses (ours had a three foot gangway between so the noise carried if the windows were open). Maybe close the windows on that side of the house, if you feel that they are truely noisey.

4) You say you are renting, is it a condo association. If so, there are noise rules. Get a copy of the condo docs and read them.

5) Ask for neighborhood arbitration. And check the local noise laws. In my area, no loud noises before 7:00; in my son's it is before 8:00.

My guess is that there is something going on that requires them to take an afternoon nap. If so, this is something the both of you can agree about a time for.

Answer 3

Kids are going to play and they need to. Let them play. Do the people next door have a nap time or some sort of issue that is being affected by the kids being rowdy at a certain time period. Maybe you can compromise.I typically would not let the kids out in the back yard to jump on the trampoline or be loud and rambunctious until 9 am and in the evening, when things start to calm down in the neighborhood like maybe a school night, dinner time the kids come inside. Unless its a special occasion, weekend or a first snow fall or something different circumstances. Last year we had a big snow day here, school was canceled. The kids were so excited when we got the word @ 7:30 AM they couldn't get bundled up fast enough. They were outside most of the day. Load, running around, throwing snowball, screaming...who could blame them.

Answer 4

I'd talk to your neighbors and ask what specifically is bothering them. Don't get defensive, but truly listen to their side of the story. Do they have grown kids? It's possible they've forgotten or just don't like kids. Let them know that between certain hours, your kids won't be outside and give them some daytime hours to themselves. Take your kids to the park instead of the yard.

If the neighbor is complaining about the volume of your kids when they're in your house, then I'd agree that there's a problem. He shouldn't be able to hear them from inside his house---or even loudly from outside his.

I'd make a behavior chart and if they start screaming and yelling, they get a bad check and after so many checks, something happens-favorite toy is taken, etc. Encourage them to help each other be quiet. Good luck with this one!

Answer 5

I have the same problem but its the opposite, my neighbors kids can get really out of hand. Slamming down on the floor or against the wall so hard that it rattles items on shelves or on tables. Its loud enough to wake up the baby. Out at 6 a.m and doing yard work (yes the kids), like blowing leaves. They're more rambunctious, when the parents aren't home. I've gone over and asked them to settle down, they do. You should step back and objectively check to make sure they aren't getting out of hand. But you shouldn't have to keep them in the house and completely quiet. Children need to play, I compromise with my neighbors; I don't mind them playing on my side of the yard, so long as they are mindful of my new car in MY drive way. They do try to be careful.

Answer 6

This is such a difficult subject, and I guess one that starts to leave you worried everytime your boys make a noise, I lived by someone similar and its a nightmare so you have my sympathies. At the end of the day, kids are kids, unless they are being rude or abusive then I fail to see what anyone can do about it. When we moved to this house we had a party in the garden for my then 9 year olds birthday, the bloke behind stuck his head over the fence and asked to keep the noise down, he was advised it was a kids birthday party, this made no impact on him so he was told to P off....he hasn't complained since. Some folks will go out of their way if they think t upsets you, just stand up to him. If you are really worried you could check with your local council/police and see if there are any laws being broken.....when you are sure there are none..invite their friends around too LOL.
Good luck.

Answer 7

You don't need to do anything unless the noise is unreasonable. If it is just children playing then that is reasonable. If however they have some powerful sound equipment and are running it full blast then that is unreasonable. That they own and you rent is of no consequence. If they wish to take any action they would have to contact the environmental health dept who would assess the situation (when they got round to it) and they would decided if it was reasonable or not and tell you and your neighbour what the results were. So noise levels normal for 4 young boys and not after 11 at night or before 8 in the morning and you are okay

Answer 8

Your boys are not too young to understand that they can't shout and play loud outside at home, but they can't be made into statues, either. They are engineered to be rowdy and loud. Keep them indoors until 10 am, then when you are outside with them, gently remind them (like every 2 minutes, I know) that they need to keep it down. And plan a daily trip to a local park after lunch and nap time, where they can run and scream and tire themselves out so that they are quiet once you get home for dinner time. Your neighbors can't expect quiet 24 hours a day, but you can fix it so they are only noisy in the late morning. If they complain about THAT, you've just got the bad luck to live next door to a bunch of whiney-butts and you'll have to ignore them.

Answer 9

Kids make noise...

I would prefer to be the fun neighbour who challenges them to lightsabre fights

I support communities.


I also support the idea that people should be segrated a bit... ie areas designated family or quite... same like on holiday so you have the youthful party hotel having a top time...


and the quite sophisticated hotel for those looking to relax, both have what they want and they can meet and do joint activities too.

Answer 10

Compromise.

Maybe you can structure some 'quiet time' activities for the boys. Like reading short stories to them between 2 and 4, after paytime. Or listening to music, or doing art.

Your neighbor cannot expect your kids to be quite all the time, but if you give them a break from the noise once in a while, you will all be better off.

Good luck.

Answer 11

That is very difficult - I'm a parent (just of two boys but even so) It makes me angry on your behalf. Children should not have to be quiet - they need to play, it is part of their development. Its great to make a noise.

My advice would be, try not to get too stressed over this, it will spoil the quality of your life and affect your partner and children too. Also, try to maintain amicable relationship with your neighbours, because it creates an awful atmosphere otherwise and makes things worse.

Alwayd be polite, don't raise your voice or swear at them whatever they say or do. But be firm and say there is only so much you can do, because they are normal children and its normal to make a noise.

I guess you could try a compromise with your neighbours - say that the boys will be quiet between certain hours - When they're getting ready for sleep and asleep - so, say 7.30 in the evening to 7.30 in the morning. In time, they will all be in school during most weekdays anyway.

Hope this helps, and good luck!!