Im really not a horrible or fake person i swear but I have the problem of cheating on guys. even ones I really like. I think ive cheated on every boyfriend Ive ever had and none of them have ever found out so i think thats why i keep doin it and i really think its an actual problem! Im the same way with stealing (from stores not people) Ive gotten away with it so I keep doing it.
I really like the guy Im with ALOT. Weve been good friends for over a year now and hes the first guy Ive dated that I was friends with for a while first and he lives across the street! So I really dont want to mess it up with him. when we first started talkin, but were already kissing and all, I went out with some friends to a bar and left with one of my exs friends for the night. i justified that by saying my boyfriend and i werent 'official' yet but i did still feel bad. He and I spend almost all our time together but I feel like when were not and temptation comes around im gonna cheat! how do i not?!?!?!?
2007-12-27 00:43:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my response to some of your responses:
I would be incredible pissed if i got cheated on and thats the other thing.. as far as i know, ive never been cheated on! but the thing is i don't get caught so thats why its hard to turn the tables because to me i think that would never happen. people saying to me one day i will eventually get caught is like people saying to me if i speed one day i will eventually wreck my car and die.. uuuh not nessecarily! because im good at not getting caught cheating..just like im good at driving fast. and im not insecure or need attention honestly ive always been happy never been a depressed person and to me its just like a little game i play.. complete and total recreation. don't get me wrong i dont go out looking for people to cheat on boyfriends with and im nto a slut. I just enjoy sex YES SO F*CKING SHOOT ME and get caught up in the idea of switchin it up who im doin it with....
2007-12-27 01:05:45 · update #1
That is a hard question. It's nice to feel wanted by guys, and you give in to that. I think you're right about the not being caught part. That goes for the stealing as well.
Maybe you don't like these guys as much as you think you do.
If you would like to see different guys, maybe you should let the person that you like know that you're not quite up for a completely monogomous relationship, but like them very much, and would like to continue to see them. Let them know that you don't have anyone else in mind, but you will know in time if you want to be totally committed to them.
That sounds crazy, and difficult, and they may not go along with it. But if you can't stop cheating, the time will come where you get caught and the relationship most likely will be over anyway...only it will be a much more difficult situation. When you get caught, it's not pretty. It's hurtful to all, including, and maybe mostly to yourself. If you get caught stealing, it will definitely make you wish that you would have never done it.
It's really not worth the risk or the trouble that it causes.
I think that when you really find a guy that you just don't want to be without, and think of only him, you'll know.
Try and do what you can, but know that getting caught will be much worse than just feeling bad about doing these things and not getting caught. Hang in there...things will work out.
Just be strong.
Much Luck
2007-12-27 00:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should look into some professional help. You like the excitement of newness. The best way to ignite that excitement is to do something that is "bad," something you may get caught doing. This could get you hurt in the long run. You could end up with some STD or you could end up losing someone you dearly love. Also you don't want to get caught shoplifting. That record will stay with you forever and it may keep you from reaching any goals you have in life. I really think you should seek some help while you are young. Good luck to you.
2007-12-27 09:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by tm1trish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some serious committment issues. You also seem to have a problem with the thrill of doing something wrong. You probably want to get caught just for the thrill of it. You need to seek some counseling to get to the root of the problem. Make no mistake, it is a problem. Odds are that at some point you WILL get caught at your little games. Do something about it before you really mess up your life.
2007-12-27 08:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you get a rush from cheating and stealing. For you it's the idea that you could be caught. right now it sounds like you've either been smart about what you do or lucky. My suggest that you have sex with your boyfriend in semi public places. Same rush and nobody gets hurt. Example a restaurants bathroom, a doctors office, an elevator, etc. The stealing thing I think that you should watch Monique's I could have been your cellmate. I'm tellin' you don't want to go to jail for a candy bar or something else petty. In all honesty you don't want to go to jail period.
2007-12-27 08:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by own my on 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 learn 2 stop yurself get some self control and if u really like the guy u will respect him enuff and not cheat what if the one guy that u didnt cheat on found out that u have cheated on every guy u dated then he probably wouldnt date u then you would be the onewith the broken heart. i think thats one of the reasons you cheat b/c u r scared 2 get yur heart broken
2007-12-27 09:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by 0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to a Counselor to Find out What the underlying "problem" is, making you unfaithful and your habitual stealing. These are signs that something deep rooted is going on. Good Luck !!!
2007-12-27 09:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by casper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Protestations of not being horrible or fake to the contrary, what you are (or aren't) remains to be seen. Not cheating is a matter of character; you either have it, or you don't. By your own admission, you as yet do not. (So at a minimum, muster up the good sense not to cheat on someone who would hurt you if you did.) Good luck, kid.
2007-12-27 09:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from places and people who might tempt you to cheat. Avoid bars and friends who may be a bad influence on you. Otherwise, see a counsellor
2007-12-27 08:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around eventually comes around?
Didn't see the word 'respect' anywhere in your question, either for yourself or for the bf of the moment. Mmm - interesting
2007-12-27 09:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dark angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you apparently have not found the right person yet.. if you really like him and if he was right for you then you would find no need to cheat on him...the guy must be lacking something for you if you have to cheat
2007-12-27 08:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kell Belle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋