We've been together for almost two years... when i read it it killed me.. i'm basically scarred for life she described every guy in detail and said how hot she was.. and like one guy had a gf and she talked about how she was pissed off when she found out... should i take revenge on her and dump her before she does it to me? i swear i loved her with all my heart i just want to do something before this pain kills me.. she hasnt cheated or anything and she said she still cares about me in her blog.... what should I do?
2007-12-27 00:41:04 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everyone for the replies.. they really helped
We are both 18 and she also said in her blog that she didnt want to dump me at that current moment because she doesn't want to be alone.. and because apparently i'm very committed in the relationship..and she thinks if she dumps me i'll do something bad.. btw in her blog she says talks about how one guy (where she works) really caught her eye.. and then he broke is leg and couldn't come to work.. and she really missed him and she specifically said she thought about him more than she thought about me :| that really hurt
2007-12-27 01:33:20 · update #1
She will most likely flip out if she ever found out you'd read her blog. Even if you stay with her and pretend nothing has happened, it will never be the same as you know that she is checking out other options and dragging out the relationship, just because she is afraid of how you will handle it if it ends.
There is no reason to stay, so set up a day where the two of you has the time to talk and let her know you want to break up. Although you may know the real truth don't tell her, just let her know that you feel that there seem to different 'needs' and 'wants' between the two of you and say your goodbye.
I know it is very painful for you to find out your girlfriend's secret but is better now than later on down the road you want to propose to her and she break the news she is in love with somebody else.
You seem like a stand up guy and one who stay committed in the relationship so don't worry, there is a wonderful young lady out there that will never let you down and appreciate you. As for your girlfriend, she will continue to drift from guy to guy and will lose out on finding real love even though she had it staring right in her face and didn't notice it.
2007-12-27 14:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump her if you want to.
Because like you said, you don't wanna go through all the pain. But then you also have to watch out for signs. Because if she doesn't seem like she's gonna do it, there's gonna be a huge shock coming from her heart.
Before you break up with her, tell her that you read her blog, and she'll feel miserable and guilty, but hey, she mentioned all those guys, desho? So she can go out with all those guys except for the one that had a GF. I may have not experienced dumping someone, mainly because I'm 12, but I'm just trying to help.
Hope I have!!!
Sincerely, Qistina
2007-12-27 00:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by clandestine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking about other guys does not make her a cheat...it makes her an idiot for doing it online where you could read it, but it doesn't make her a cheat.
If she's worth staying with, then I would sit down and talk with her, tell her you've read this and how it's made you feel. Make sure she knows that you're not impressed and that you consider this kind of thing unacceptable for someone in a relationship. If she disagrees then it's clear what you have to do - walk away before it goes any further!
2007-12-27 00:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found it funny. Of course Fonzie's right, this sort of thing would cut across all racial lines. I'm sure there are obsessive collectors of hip hop, jazz, blues etc that may illustrate racial diversity better. It reminds me of something I saw once (possibly in The Onion), a fake headline talking about the roof collapsing on a Yo La Tengo show...43 record store clerks killed :)
2016-05-27 00:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well, at least you have time to process it before it happens. I would run like the wind. It sounds like trying to hang on to someone who is not as into you as you thought might only be more hurtful in the long run.
Just let her know that you read it and you have no ill feelings, you just wish she had been more upfront and told you herself. It just seems to me like the trust is now broken with you and even if you stayed together at this point you would always wonder and you would become obsessed (not really, just an expression) with checking her blogs, e-mails, cell phone messages etc....
Just talk to her and if she is serious about what she said then you need to let this go.
2007-12-27 00:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Indya M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your pain, I know it's hard to believe right now but it will get better. You don't state your age but it is important because if you are still in your teens understand that it was going to end at some point anyway. She sounds immature and self centered like a lot of teens and twenties so why invest your heart there? Sounds like she has a lot of rough edges and is not ready to be committed.
I hope you have a concerned parent or grandparent or older sib, no one can take away your pain but people who care about you can be a distraction and a soft place to land for now. Take care.
2007-12-27 00:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont B Mean About It, She''ll Know U Read Her Blog, But Def Dump Her 1st....Goo Luck ;D
2007-12-27 00:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump Her !!! Love Hurts, Sadly enough ! But if she has a blog and she's talking trash about you, then WHAT do you need Her for?! Leave with Your Pride,and your head up High !! A dog will "care" for you. You Need someone who Loves you like you Love her !!! Don't "Settle" !!!! Let your Heart Mend and then you Will find the Perfect Lady for You !!! Good Luck !!!
2007-12-27 00:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy, be thankful you are finding out now and not after you're married or something. Hurtful? Yes. Sorry about that. Revenge? No. but...Protect yourself? Definitely. Tell her you need to be the only one in her thoughts too. She can learn from this experience as well. Maybe down the road she will realize what a mistake she made.
2007-12-27 00:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by periwinkleme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump her now. Do it while you are still pissed off at her, and print her blog out just so you can remember how outrageous she was if you ever get weak.
2007-12-27 00:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋