I'm 12 years old and I have a boyfriend. He's very nice and most of the time, the only thing going through my head. But my parents always tell me that when you're little, it's not actually love. But I do love him and I don't know what to believe. I think I love him, mom says it's a crush, and my older friends say I shouldn't even have a boyfriend! Who am I supposed to believe?
2007-12-27 00:25:56 · 9 answers · asked by Sara C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you may love him but it doesnt necessarily mean that ur in love...love is complicated....listen to what ur parents say they went thru what ur going thru
2007-12-27 00:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by lilcrazyinsanegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer your first question.
Parents are against it because they're afraid that their children are going to make mistakes in that relationship and get hurt, and worst, could be depressed and commit suicide. Doesn't sound very loving when you think about how they take away someone you love huh?
I'm 12 too, and I like someone very much, not really much of a boyfriend. My parents also say that it's not love. Sometimes when they really think I should stop thinking about it, they tell me that it isn't really important to experience it when you're in Middle School. Once my mom told me that I should be man-phobic, like some of my friends are. Truth is, they're exactly like me and want to be with someone from the opposite gender.
Your mom might've forgotten what it was like to fall in love and now when she thinks of it, she thinks it's 'a crush'.
As for your friends, they might be a bit jealous that you love him and they probably want to love their boyfriends the way you do.
I'd say that you should believe your heart, because it's the only one you trust. Plus, it knows what you want. If you can't hear your heart scream, you have to make the decision WITHOUT your heart and I know it's hard to, but it's the only to actually make the decision, "Should I love him or not?".
Hope I've helped you.
Sincerely,
Qistina
PS, I'll be glad to help you anytime.
2007-12-27 00:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by clandestine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different forms of love... Your parents should respect that... However (I must add, sorry.) your parents have been around a while. Have you heard of the song: "I wish that I knew what I know now when I was younger..." ?
Here is some advice: Still be a child, because one day you will be 26 sitting behind a desk -- wishing that you could go back to those years. Don't waste your time on boyfriends and excessing about spending quality time with them.
Remember this is a time for your self and your growth. You don't want to resent years down the road of things you may miss out on. (Hence, personal experience.) You have plenty of time to chase boys and break hearts.
Enjoy your youth. And have boyfriends -- but in moderation. Sadly, you will break hearts, and likely yours will too. Odds are -- your boyfriend now will not be your last.
(In a good way.)
2007-12-27 00:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a crush.
Love has to do with more than what you just feel. You have an attraction, but Love lasts a lifetime. BTW you are way too young to have a boyfriend.
2007-12-27 00:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 12 years old is a little too young to really know. it probably is love but it shouldn't be anything really serious because you're so young.
2007-12-27 00:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Widsom
you have not yet learned the sacrifices that go into love
you do have the heart flutter when you see 'him'
but that will only last like the morning mist
when you love him during the thunderstorms
and endless sun beating down on your head
then we will talk, again
2007-12-27 00:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you THINK you love him u don't...
But you are 12 years old... You still have Junior High and High School boys to go through... Don't settle at 12!!! Dang...
You are to young to have a bf....Shame on your parents if they let you actually go on dates....
2007-12-27 00:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take advice from people who have been in your situation before. Love involves a lot of things, many of them are not nice, so its good to be more mature so you can handle them better. When bad things happen to young people, it affects them more.
2007-12-27 00:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers and fathers have a manner of understanding issues we don't My mom knew that the two one in each and every of my ex's weren't actual for me... I spent over 25 yrs wasted on those men.... i'm now unmarried. hear to mothers and fathers.....they do have some wisdom of the worldwide.... it is so stressful to settle for mothers and fathers being actual.... be nicely..
2016-10-20 01:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋