how can you tell i am afraid that my 8 year old son is gay..he is into tap dancing and and singing...also he does not like to watch sports and when he saw one of his dads swimsuit magazines he looked at it then screamed!
2007-12-27 00:19:28 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
when my son was little he carried around barbies, he carried around a clown doll and he would dance around, even wear a shirt on his head saying it was his hair, wore my heels and tried on my mom's makeup. I started to freak out too but you know what I realized it's a phase they go through. They imitate who is around them, almost trying to find themselves. Eventually my son began to hate the "pink aisle" at the toy stores and started watching sports, yet is still sensitive to girls around him. He has got a sweet and sympathetic side...if he is gay I will love him the same... but I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-12-27 00:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by typerchic34 5 · 14⤊ 3⤋
You can't and so what if he is, would that change the amount that you love him, if so maybe you should have thought about that before you had a baby. Would you treat him differently if you found out he was gay or would you give him to the state to raise for you, I mean really if he is what does it really matter? All parents want straight kids and I do understand that but if they are gay or lesbian it is something that you live with and that does not change the way that you treat or love your child and if you would treat your child any different or love him less if he was gay DO NOT HAVE ANY MORE KIDS.
2007-12-27 05:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by H mom of 3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm, my cousin was into all that at that age.
That doesn't mean he's gay.
This is the 21st century and men now do tap and sing. And he's only 8! Of course he'll scream at the sight of a half-naked woman. And so what if he doesn't like sports? Not all boys do.
My nephew is gay and is 19. His mom didn't know the signs until he was 15.
And so what if he is? Why would that be a problem?
2007-12-27 11:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't tell that an 8 yr. old is gay. Just because he likes dancing & singing does not make him gay. Also just because he's not into looking at swimsuit magazines is not a big deal at his age. Heck kids around his age still think that the oposite sex has "Kooties" let him be the 8 yr. old he is and enjoy your son for who he is. Kids go through many different fazes but that's a part of growing up. He may like dancing today and who knows in a few years like hockey or who knows what. Just enjoy and appreciate your son for who he is. He's only young once and can/ will probably be totally oposite/ different when he grows up than what you think.
2007-12-27 03:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you try to either just accept the fact that he could be gay, motivate him to do something like go outside and play some sports with you, or just leave him alone and let him grow out of it. I seriously doubt that he'll be like this for the rest of his life. I seriously think that being gay is all a part of genetics. I think your too concerned about him right now, and to be honest at eight years old you really can't tell. You could tell at an age around high school, but eight is way too young to determine anything sexually about him.
Also remember, don't try to get too much into gender roles with him as he gets older. He doesn't have to be the strongest kid in the block or be the star athlete on the track team. As long as he's functioning normally as he gets older and is socializing with other kids his age, then you have nothing to be worried about.
2007-12-27 01:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
...Most parents will miss this one because everyone tries to give a answer that fits whats politically correct, but the truth is in most cases you can tell with great accuracy... I've known several boys who acted in this manner, and all are grown homosexual men now! I caught my 8 year old step son playing with his brothers penis when he was 5 and his little brother was 3.. He was caught twice actually... Everything from his body movements to his interests are very; well lets say very female in nature.. One thing that I've seen happen in most cases during these early years, is that they're taught inadvertently by there parents denial to go deep into the closet..
2014-05-29 08:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Henry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I knew by the time I was 5. I was attracted to males then and always have, but also loved some females but not in the same way. I had the same partner for 49 years, when he died. I'm gay and would not want to be any other way.
2014-07-15 17:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by E. M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signs Your Son Is Gay
2016-09-30 09:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy Ebson was into soft shoes dancing.
Would you call Jed Clampett gay?
He sings?
Elvis sang.
Lot's of men/boys aren't into sports.
That could change.
What do you mean he screamed?
Like he saw a mouse?
If he said she had a nice ***..you'd be saying he's dirty mined.
Even if he's gay.....your still going to love him.
At least I hope you will.
Let the kid grow up before you start worrying about his sexuality.
2007-12-29 03:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can tell at an early age. I am a lesbian but when I was a little girl I loved barbies, dolls, baby dolls and dressing up as a princess. I still am very feminine and I only wear dresses. Sexual orientation is not easily detected.
2017-01-09 12:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is being both emotionally and sexually attracted to the same sex, and considering most kids only have crushes at a young age; well, there's no way to tell if your son is gay or not.
Tap dancing and singing does not make your son gay. Lots of men get categorized as gay just because they have interests that are considered feminine.
And as to looking at his "dad's swimsuit magazines"; so what? He's eight years old; when I was eight, I'm sure boys thought girls were icky, and I thought boys were icky. Just make sure your husband hides his "swimsuit magazines" from now on.
Even if he is gay, you should accept him. He's your son after all, and he did not choose to be gay.
On a different subject, you said you were twelve in a different question. Considering it would be impossible for you to have a child at the age of four, perhaps you should get your story straight.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 08:14:34 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel 3 · 9⤊ 2⤋