I just became engaged and have started thinking about how I would like our wedding to play out. What we'd really like to do is have a small wedding ceremony and then a large reception. We would like them on the same day but have about 30 more people at the reception because our church can only accommodate so many. How could we make this work? Would we have a few hours between the ceremony and the reception so that there's no overlapping or right after another. The reception would be at a different location than the wedding.
2007-12-26 15:31:05 · 7 answers · asked by Johanna E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes, the church is very small. it can only hold about 60 people and our guest list is approx. 120
2007-12-27 02:06:50 · update #1
I was going to say the same thing. Send out separate invitations so that no one is confused. If any one finds out that they are not invited to the ceremony, just explain to them the situation. I am sure they will understand. Allow enough time between the ceremony and reception for your guest to be able to make a smooth and safe transition from one location to the next. While your are taking pictures at the ceremony site, have someone politely explain to your guests that the bride and groom would like everyone to begin heading over to the reception site so that everything begins in a timely manner. This way no one lingers too long and tries to talk to/congratulate the bride and groom while you are taking pictures and you can get them done a get to your reception on time.
Hope this helps and Congratulations!!
2007-12-26 15:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by A Beautiful Celebration 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not selfish at all. In fact, this is becoming more and more common with couples. I know you don't want to upset anyone, but the important thing to remember is that this is your day. You have the right to have the ceremony the way you want it, and I think that choosing to have a small, intimate ceremony is great. By having the larger reception, you are still inviting others to participate in your special day. You should not have to compromise the location you really want (the small church) just to accommodate more guests, if that is not what YOU want to do. As a compromise, you could have a video made of your ceremony and show it at the reception, so that others feel that they were a part of your big day. The bottom line is that it needs to be about you and your fiance celebrating the love you have for one another in the way you choose. If it's small and intimate, then that decision is yours to make. There is always going to be decisions in the wedding planning process that not everyone agrees with, whether the ceremony is big or small. The important thing to remember is that you and your groom-to-be are happy.
2016-05-26 21:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I helped my brother's fiancee with their wedding. They had a small private ceremony, with only immediate family and very close friends at the church. Those invites had both invites, The second invite was for the reception only. They had the reception set for a hour later. While they went to take pictures at the garden. No one seem upset that they weren't included in the wedding, most just wanted to help the couple celebrate, it's just like if you get married privately, then have a reception later, same principle
2007-12-28 07:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually rude to invite people to the party that celebrates and event without inviting them to the actual event. Is your church really that small that thirty people truly won't fit? Some people skip the ceremony anyway, so you'll probably be fine to invite everyone. Several years ago I went to a wedding in a very small church- we got there right before the ceremony so we stood in the back, which was fine.
2007-12-27 02:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send out seperate invitations.
Send ceremony/reception invites to the people who will attend both. Send out just reception invites to the rest of your guests. Give at least an hour between the two, that way your guests at the church can make their way to the hall and get settled, and gives you time to recharge as well. Congradulations btw!:)
2007-12-26 15:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Fo Sho! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have the wedding at your church. Have the reception at a hall. Go from the wedding to the hall. Have a good friend at the hall to set everyone that comes to the hall. The hall should have an time about one hour after the wedding time. that way you have a full room to make an entrance.
2007-12-26 19:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rhapsody616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't do it this way. The same people must be invited to both the ceremony and reception. To do otherwise is rude, making them seem like a 'B' list of invites.
2007-12-26 23:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋