To cut a long story short, when she first asked (aged 6) I told my daughter she couldn't get her ears done til she was 12.
Well, she's now 8, and all her friends seem to have had theirs done in the last year or 2. I have heard her telling her freinds she would love earrings but has to wait til she is 12, so I thought 'what the hell, I don't want her feeling odd-one-out'.
This morning, we went to the jewellers, under the guise of going for a necklace, and after she had chose one, I told her she could have any pair of clip-ons within a certain price range, or get her ears pierced.
The only part that was actually a decision for her was deciding which earrings she wanted to get pierced with.
Although the logical part of my head says "It's only earrings, most girls her age have them, and it was her choice" - I found it really difficult to let them do it, and even though she insists they don't hurt ("I can't even feel them"), it really upsets me to see her with studs in. Why is that?
2007-12-23 23:50:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
probably because you associate the pierced ears with her growing up. my mom has cried at every milestone in my life, from kindergarten graduation, getting my ears pierced (yes, she CRIED), and everything else. i just graduated college last year, and she cried when i got my first "real job" a couple months ago. i'm sure the crying is a bit extreme, but you feeling this way seems normal.
2007-12-23 23:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hope the jeweller told her the correct thing to do until the hole has healed, such as keeping her ear clean with something like diluted Dettol and washing hands before the "turning" round the stud , and not to finger her ear with dirty hands until the hole has properly healed. I didn't follow instructions and ended up with a poisonous very painful ear because I changed the loops, I got with the piercing for a pair of studs I liked, and obviously caused an infection because I hadn't waited until it had healed properly. I think the reason you found it so difficult is because fathers have a problem with their daughters growing up, which they do so quick nowadays, and cant bear them being "mutilated" in any way. This is perfectly understandable, my father was just the same, but just be pleased you let her make her own decision (some children never learn to make their own decisions which is a real hinderance, as it spills over into their teenage years, then adult life, causing all sorts of problems).
Hope she really appreciates what a good father she has.
Happy Christmas a New Year, or Thanksgiving, or whatever your religion is, have a great time.
2007-12-24 08:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Outhval 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she happy with the result? Now that it's done that really is the main issue.
My daughter wanted hers done and I kept telling her to wait, then when she was 11 I did much the same as you. I told her we were going to get her hair cut and suprised her with the ears. She was totally rapt with it till they did the first one which hurt her. I bought her a nice pair to put in when the studs were ready to come out but we never made it that far. She's 12 now and I wear her earrings.
All the same, I felt an emotional pull when she had it done. It was like admitting that my baby was growing up. Maybe that's what you're feeling now.
2007-12-24 07:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby girl is growing up...what you're feeling is completely normal. Just set the ground rules right now...#1, you allowed her to get her ears pierced BEFORE you originally agreed #2, she needs to be responsible about cleaning the areas to avoid infection #3, NO other piercings as she gets older #4, no large earings (tell her no larger than a dime until she's 12)
Good Luck and Happy Holidays
P.S. I really think you did the right thing...I got my daughters ears pierced when she was only 6 months..they're really cute!
2007-12-24 11:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some of us Dads believe that their daughters are perfect the way they are.
Plus the pierced ears thing means she is growing up..... and you had it in your mind to hold off till she was 12. So now you have an 8 yr old who just aged 4 years before your eyes..... where did the time go :(
(You get used to them)
2007-12-24 08:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She will always be your "little" girl! I've noticed especially for dads, its almost impossible to believe that their little girl is all grown up.
She decided she wanted her ears peirced, you sat down a time frame thinking you would be "ok" with it when she was that age, but in truth, it wouldn't have mattered if she were 18 and got them peirced. She is your little girl and everything, every milestone she faces will freak you out!
I am 30, married and have an almost 8 year old daughter, and my dad still freaks out when something happens, or I change something... it will always occur!!
Sorry. But, think of it this way. You gave her a present she had been wanting for 2 years! You will continue to be the "cool" one!
2007-12-26 15:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by pirateswife0530 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is only earrings so listen to the logical part of your brain. You will get used to seeing her with earrings. Seems like you were not quite ready to let her get her ears pierced so you are probably just regretting your decision.
2007-12-24 11:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's growing up and earrings do make a person look more grown up. Instead try to feel proud of her for making the decision on her own.
As parents we've all been there. Many more milestones to come!
2007-12-24 10:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"...a decision for her was deciding which earrings she wanted to get pierced with."
Ear peircing is really quite barbaric. When you think about it, it really is quite nasty to choose which little peice of metal is the best to shoot into your earlobe! You probably don't like the idea of your daughter having an earing poke a hole into her earlobe just because it's fashionable.
2007-12-24 08:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she probably MEANS it! they dont hurt after some time. they hurt a little but u get used to em like braces and new rooms. i got my ears pierced twice. i got mine when i was 4 and then i took em off and they closed up. i got em again at age 6. my friend had her ears pierced 3 times. she got double on each ear. she has two earings on each lobe and on her right ear, she has a stud at the top of her ear.
2007-12-24 14:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by self-explainatory 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋