Kind of going off what KHNBS1 said...does a couple that has sex before marriage have to get married? Because I don't find anything that would say that is the case. Many Christian websites (gotquestions.org, christiansanswers.net) don't mention anything about having to get married, even when a child is concieved.
2007-12-23 22:49:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Exodus 22:16 is under Old Testament rules, which Jesus said Christians are not obligated to abide by.
2007-12-23 22:54:20 · update #1
When Jesus died on the cross, He put an end to the Old Testament law (Romans 10:4; Galatians 3:23-25; Ephesians 2:15).
(www.gotquestions.org)
2007-12-24 00:15:58 · update #2
Tricky question. If you look at it logically, no one HAS to do anything. Especially if you live in a free country. From a Christian point of view, I never heard that before. They just say don't do it, but they never tell you what to do after you already have. I have my own religious beliefs and I don't want to preach to you. But I do want to say that sex is a mistake, married or not, if it is for the wrong reasons. Too often, girls with low self esteem end up having sex to feel loved, affection, etc. And too often these girls are just being taken advantage of by people who only want one thing. My best advice is to do some soul searching, and pray on this issue. Try to figure out what g-d wants you to do.
2007-12-23 22:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by LAGrrl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mean k There is no law stating that you have to marry anyone, other then Gods Law. If you are pregnant and have a child out of wedlock the child was considered a bastard child. The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. Today society looks at it as the child is not responsible for their being born out of wedlock. Back in the old days it was cause a thing that was disliked by all. Today we live by the New Testament and are under a new covenant, and are forgiving. We are not God, or Judges. The decisions we make, knowing right from wrong, make us our own judge when we stand before the Lord and give account as to why we chose that decision. If we bring our children up Godless,and give no account for their or our actions, then the sins of ours and our fathers fall upon the children. It's all up to the parents and our decision, the bible also says that God is a loving and forgiving God if we receive His Son as our Savior and Lord and ask for forgiveness, he will forgive. There is only one unforgiveable sin and that is Blaspheme. Good Luck dear. if this is your situation, I will keep you in prayer. There is no one on this earth that hasn't sinned or made mistakes, thus no one should be tossing stones when they live in glass houses themselves. I am A Christian and wish you and your a very Merry Christmas filled with Happiness, Health< Wealth beyond your wildest dreams, and do remember to pray for our troops, and light a candle for those who can't be with us. God Bless!
2007-12-23 23:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual union in the biblical sense is supposed to be a spiritually sacred act of intimacy done as a celebration & expression of love.
Today when people have sex, 99% of the time it is lust and not love which is celebrated, Sex has become devalued.
If you eat candy and chocolate 3 times a day, you will eventually get sick of it. Restrain yourself, have it once a week as a special treat and you will always look forward to eating it.
If you have sex as an expression of LOVE then it is done in LIGHT and is a good thing, reinforcing LOVE in the union.
If you have sex as an expression of LUST, then it is done in DARKNESS and therefore will attract darkness into the relationship.
Many people get married when there is a pregnancy to do the socially acceptable "right thing" by the other person.
Would you rather have a baby with boyfriend who LOVES you, or get MARRIED to a person because they feel sorry for you?
2007-12-23 23:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Matt D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exodus 22:16 would make it seem that this is what is expected, but discernment must be practiced in each case.
"If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to be married and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife."
I don't know of any scripture where Christ says any such thing (that we no longer have to follow the OT laws). Could you point me to it?
I also find it interesting that Christ often quoted old testament passages (especially from Deuteronomy) to support his points. Seems like Christ did, in fact, want us to abide by the whole scripture, not just the last part.
2007-12-23 22:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Corvo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It used to be very strict in Britain not to have sex before marriage and not get pregnant. All this has lapse in recent years and people even never get married when they have children. They even take the children to the wedding if they do decide to get married and have them as bridesmaids or page boy.
The world is topsy turvy.
My opinion is once you want children there should be a marriage. But I can tell you 80% would dissagree.
2007-12-23 22:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a decision you have to make for yourself. Don't let anything else influence you, if you feel comfortable and think its the right decision then go for it, but if you are not sure just wait. Some people find it very rewarding to wait while most think it frustrating. All I can say is do what you think is right and believe in your choice.
2007-12-23 22:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Keef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you have to get married after (or before) having sex depends on what belief system you subscribe to.
Different mutations of christianity believe different things.
However, I recommend against using religion as your value system. Try thinking rationally instead.
Ask yourself, what are you goals? your values? your emotional & physical needs?
What decisions about sex & marriage will best serve those goals, values, & needs?
2007-12-23 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by energeticthinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a sin to have sex before marriage, if you do have it ask God to forgive you. You don't have to get married but if you have a child it would be best to get married.
2007-12-23 23:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did we ever get the idea that we don't have to follow the Word of God?
Jesus said" I DID NOT come to do away with the Law, but to fulfill it.
2007-12-23 23:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by drg5609 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm against the idea of sex before marriage, but for those who do have it, they don't need to get married.
2007-12-23 22:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋