I love her and she says she loves me, but she's got a boyfriend and she lives with him. She tells me she can't leave because if she breaks up with him he'll kick her out and she doesn't have the finances to handle that at the moment.
I can't do anything about this because I still live with my parents and I just started college, so she can't exactly move in with me. I'm 18, she's 23, and my parents are having trouble just accepting the age difference, though they're trying. Haven't told them about her boyfriend- never will.
At first, things weren't so bad, but tonight she told me that she thought we should take a break until she could leave him because she felt terrible for cheating and for me being forced to know we're not exclusive. That fact bothers me, yes, but I don't want to live without her even for that "break". It scares me.
On one hand, I don't want to think of us as "just friends". Ever. On the other hand, I don't like having her feel guilty because of me. Advice?
2007-12-23 22:06:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Giving up is not an option. She means the world to me. I don't care what anybody thinks about us.
2007-12-23 22:09:02 · update #1
It's not me waiting that I'm concerned about, maybe. I know I could wait. I'm just concerned she'll become used to us just being friends in that time.
2007-12-23 22:20:47 · update #2
if you really love her like you say you do just be there and be supportive of her during this rough patch and if you no she loves you just the same then you no she will also do her best to be with you
2007-12-23 22:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by eden 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were the boyfriend, what would you think?
I would stay away from her. Sounds like she is having her cake and eating it too.
You can find someone who will be faithful, to you.
She feels guilty because she is doing it to herself. Do you honestly want someone whose morals believe that she can cheat and get away with it? If she cheats on one, she will cheat on you.
It is better that she wants to take a "break". You have plenty of time in your life to find a decent girl who will respect you.
Hugs to you. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-23 22:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're (unfortunately) too inexperienced to realize it, but this relationship isn't going to work.
It is far too complicated, and she is far too much of an emotional, financial, and moral wreck for it to work.
You will, of course, not accept this assessment. You will waste a year of your emotional life pining after the impossible dream...have a big emotional crash...and then learn a lesson (if you are wise enough to learn the lesson).
Then, please thank me for giving you the truth, in the first place.
Take care, and good luck to you.
:-)
2007-12-23 22:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by energeticthinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need that kind of trouble. She's five years older, is dependent on another man for financial support, and you want to take his place? Forget it. There are PLENTY of women out there. Don't get caught up in that drama.
2007-12-23 22:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait, man...wait. Is it so hard to wait? If you really love her you won't have trouble waiting a few days...a few months...a few years, decades, centuries... A true relationship is best defined by how long lovers can wait for each other...even if it takes a lifetime
2007-12-23 22:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kapes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget her. Life is short. Get another. Don't waste time.
2007-12-23 22:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Cooooool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still a child, you don't even know what the world is. She is also still a child though...
2007-12-23 22:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to feel guilty about anything...she is using him....
2007-12-23 22:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋