he dumped me because, we are too different, and that he wasnt ready for a relationship and he dont lvoe me no more :'(
we was together for over a year which is long, he was my first for everything!
and i was his first for everything!
and he says he doesnt love me nor wants to be friends with me
im so upset cos im IN Love with him and being without him hurts like ****!
will he come back later in the year?
will he realise that differences doesnt matter
what should i do except move on :'(
i just want him back in my life
please help!
2007-12-23 21:48:23 · 16 answers · asked by St*r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't give you any hope because I do not know enough about the situation.
The only thing that I can offer is this: Move on, and enjoy your life. You may find someone else, or he may come back later. Do not sit around wasting your life waiting for someone that obviously does not feel that he wants to continue seeing you right now.
2007-12-23 21:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ex of yours sounds eerily similar to a guy I used to date. I know you heard that getting over your first 'love' is hard so it is understandable why you are feeling the way you do.
However I find it a cop out that he'd say the two of you are too different-- you been with him over a year and honestly you can tell someone is the opposite of you within a few times of hanging out with them early on-- not finally realizing it a year later. This is his piss poor excuse for dumping you.
It will take a good long while for him to come back to you, only if he is GENUINELY ready to give the relationship another go, to accept who you are and really love you. That if he realized what a terrible mistake he'd made and sincerely want you for good.
If he does come back anytime sooner (months from now), chances are because he is lonely or things haven't work out between him and someone else then come crawling back to you and probably dumping you again within a few months after that.
Pick up your pride and remind yourself that this guy doesn't have what it takes to be in a mature relationship anyway if he believes someone different from him is a problem.
At this point there is nothing much you can do but become a stronger and better person after this experience. Eventually someone will love you for you and the funny thing about it, your ex just might come around again when it's a little too late.
2007-12-27 14:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, I'm not going to tell you to move on or give him up because judging by what you've said, you're obviously in love with him. What I might suggest is to give your thoughts about him a time out. Try to concentrate on your work, or your career and don't think about him if you can help it. Try to work on yourself first and give it six months to a year. Don't get into any new relationships because there's always the chance that you're just rebounding from your ex and those things won't last. After some time, try to go back to your thoughts about him and see if you're still in love with him. Don't be emotional about it and don't ask him to come back or you might appear desperate...just work on a different phase of your life first and try to see what happens. Whatever you do, DO NOT LET YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOUR LIFE. Good luck and hope this helps!
2007-12-24 05:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, it's not worth it to keep hoping that something might happen again for the two of you. If he doesnt love you, you can't do anything about it. He is not the only person you will love and it's not worth it to sulk over someone that doesn't give a flying f**k about you. I'm sorry to be so hard, but maybe this might give you a wake up call and you will realise that not any man is worth begging for and crying over.
2007-12-24 05:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just dumped too. I dated him for 2 years and sacrificed so much for him. No, I don't think he'll ever comes back to u, sorry. If you do not want to move on, u're hurting yourself..
I am still heartbroken and I want him back too. But I know he wouldn't ever wants me back. Better not be so committed. I could feel your sadness and I still cry when I think of him. But, honestly, you really have to move on. If he really comes back to you after some time, then it's good. But if he doesn't, you've already moved on and got nothing to lose, right? Try not to think about him so much already. He might already found another girl. If he could dump you once, he could do it again. He's not worth it. Find someone more compatible.
2007-12-24 05:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by theng 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see i know its difficult to forget a guy i was in a relation with a guy for 1 1/2 years he also cheated on me i tried many times to get him back in my life my situstion was like yours i suffered a lot but since the time has passed now at this point of time i am very much happy with my new guy . you just try to forget him because he just told that he doesnt loves you . you cant force anyone to love you otherwise you wont be called as a good lover just do things what you like and be busy dont think about him and i am sure how do i feel today you will aslso feel it tomorrow i think that i just wasted my life behind that crap and you are also doing the same girl.
and remember " you should love the person who loves not the person whom you love because he knows that you love him alot and can even take advantage of you......just be happy and god bless you. take care
2007-12-24 05:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by amy..luv u d way u r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably found a new girl with more things in common with him than you do. Id suggest to move on and find someone better. You dont need a man who dumped you!
This time you do the dumping!
2007-12-24 05:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by Nessie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Differences doenst matter if two people love each oher. well in your case i think, your ex just picked that as a reason to dumped you..
if you dont want a "move on" advice.
then rather think, that your life isnt revolve in one person. there are a lot of people that is more lovimng than him.. is up to you how you will look for them.
2007-12-24 05:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ohwell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him some time which Will give you some time as well to think over the relationship.Unless he comes back to you on his own none of you would be happy.If he really loved you he will come back to you and if he doesn't he never loved you.It is always better to be with someone who loves you and not with someone you love
2007-12-24 05:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by meghateni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to hurt for a while but slowly youll get back into your right mind and feel better, i think your ex honestly is just being brutally honest with you and its not your fault its a good thing think of it this way, it was a learning experience for you and just be happy for the good times you got to have with him, you cant force two people to be together if one doesnt feelt he same way
2007-12-24 06:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋