people tell me i'm beautiful on the inside but why do guys never see that? =(
should i just give up forever?
2007-12-23 20:18:49 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe that there is a guy out there for every girl, it is how the universe is created. Just keep faith and keep flirting.
2007-12-23 20:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a beautiful girl can not get a boyfriend, either, because the boys (not men) are intimidated by her.
But truly, what is one man's beautiful is another man's ugly. Also, what passes for beauty is actually somewhat sickening. I mean, have you seen many of the actresses or singers who are allegedly beautiful? No, it's mostly hype.
Darling, you should do nothing to get a boyfriend. Concentrate on school and those activities in which you are truly interested (astronomy, wildlife, skiing, etc.) - and love will come when it comes. And when it comes, it will be due to a shared passion (astronomy etc.) rather than the artificial constructs that make for the shifting sands of "swap a partner" or serial monogamy that seems to be the norm nowadays.
2007-12-23 20:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cyn B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just going to assume that you really are ugly because it was states in the question.
First, you need to realize that in this world of guys, there is a great diversity of taste. Every single girl in the world has SOMETHING they can use, and that something probably has about 5000 fan sites devoted to it. I'm a guy. Believe me, you'd be surprised what weird stuff there is on this world wide web. Ahem. You need to figure out your demographic. What do you have that will drive a tiny fraction of guys crazy?
Second, enhance whatever that is. If its a big butt, work out your butt. Etc.
Third, develop interests and passions so that men see you as girlfriend material rather than just as a jump-off. Those interests and passions will lead to self-esteem and confidence which it doesn't sound like you have.
If you could be a little bit more specific about your looks, that would help, by the way.
2007-12-23 20:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Modest Mouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is "Nothing". The minute you start doing something just to "get a bf" you will compromise who you really are and you will lose the inner beauty that others obviously see in you. The suggestions about putting out and face lifts are ridiculous. What you will end up doing is making yourself attractive to shallow immature boys at the cost of attracting a mature man who will see the inner beauty you have. Those men are out there, but usually overlooked by women for the boys who are cute but never grow into men.
Work on building a life that you are happy with, and comfortable in. Get yourself involved in things you like and want to do with a passion. Guys who share the same passion will see that in you and will be attracted to you. Don't worry about a bf now as most of the boys you meet now you will not end up marrying.
Remember that your ultimate goal in dating is to find a man who you can share your life with. Like most things in life you have to wait and be patient, you are young and have a lot of life yet to live. Make sure you don't settle for just anyone to share your life with.
2007-12-27 05:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stopping being negative, start building confidence and be yourself. Guys, though some of them might not admit it, are attracted to confident girls. There are a lot of girls out there who wouldn't be as appealing or attractive as they are if they weren't confident about themselves. And don't act desperate around guys. This turns most men off. Besides, you might not like the way you look but some people probably think you're beautiful. Enjoy your life and I'm sure that one day, you'll find the right guy... or, the right guy will wake up and realize that a beautiful person has been in his life all along!
2007-12-23 20:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by CandyCandy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coz ur hanging out with the wrong crowd.
If u truley believe ur beautiful in the inside, than u will attract more guys. The guys that care about what u think.
Unless ur attracted to guys only 4 their image, than by all means...Than u just answered ur own question.
I would pick a female with a good heart anytime over boobs and A_s. Overtime beauty fades, But the heart remains the same!! Have fun with ur new BF=)
2007-12-23 20:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best approach is to try to make yourself attractively presentable. I know most people will give me thumbs down, but I am speaking the truth and speaking from experience. I was an ugly looking boy when i was in school, but then I short of chaged my self. fist I lost a lot of weight to make my body attractive and then I shaped my hairs and got some muchels to add to the total package. I also perfected my ability to sing. So now, honestly I am a kind of attractive person. and I DO have a GF.
So, yea I would say perfect yourself in your eyes. get the proper hair and skin care, and if you think you should do something about your body, then DO IT. It's your body, have it as you like it.
That is the first step, it's necessary to feel good about yourself for getting the most important thing in this world, that is selfconfidence!! Once you have then, you will find yourself not that shy or introverted anymore, and people gotta gotta notice, and even if some people dont, you wont bother, cause at that time your selfesteem would be high enough for you to not to care about what haters think. And this is single most attractive thing about strong people. They attract other by their strong image and selfconfidence. As you know, people tend to be with people who are strong from with in,
So, yea the bottom line. Take good care about yourself. and everything you want, is everything you will get!! It's your life, color it!!!
2007-12-23 20:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, do not give up , you have qualities that others don't, you have confidence for one because you are talking openly to everyone, and secondly beauty is in the eye,s of the beholder, it comes from the heart, not looks, so do not do anything stupid, the right man will come to you soon so hang in there and just help people the best way you can,
remember a skiing accident can turn ms universe into ms ordinary as well. and that is when you find out where people stand.
keep saying to yourself that you are beautiful and get your confidence back.
do not worry
Davo
Western Australia
2007-12-23 20:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by davo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make yourself look as good as you possibly can on the outside and dont get hungup about what conventional beauty is. Maybe even go for a more unique look if you arent conventially beautiful. There are billions of people in the world and everyone likes different things.
The main attracting factor is confidence. Even if you dont feel it, act it and see how differently guys treat you. Walk with your shoulders back and hold you head hight and act like you know what your doing and that you can have whatever you want, even if you SO dont feel it inside. TRUST ME, it works and if you keep practicing it then soon you will actually start to feel it :)
2007-12-23 20:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Behave beautifully.
Beauty is only skin deep, but under that ugly goes all the way to the bone.
Set your standards high, be valuable, be respectable, be kind, be helpful, be accessible.
Remember all of the people who are "beautiful" will grow old. Sag happens. Beauty fades if it is only outward. Inward beauty just gets better with age.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-23 20:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no. Why would u write that u were ugly? If that's the case you will find a guy that looks just like u one day. I believe I am beautiful inside and out, and I will find a guy that is beautiful inside and out. Maybe you'll get the man of your dreams, just please don't give up. Just have patience!
2007-12-23 20:24:07 · answer #11 · answered by IcyJ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋