I started dating one of my friends soon after he & his GF broke up. I was ready-don't think he truly was. Things were great for a while..until he got back with her behind my back. He lied and lied-& one day he got caught. This all of course happens after I find out I'm pregnant. I had a miscarriage though. We didn't talk for about a week but I missed him despite it all. He is back with her & somehow I have found myself being the other girl & sneaking around. I hate it-& its not fair to me. YET I love him. I can't imagine not having him. But he's so flirty w/other women when we go out-& he recently has been hangin out with my so called best friend behind my back. She says he asked her sister out on a date when i was there int he other room. he says no. they sing very diff tunes..who do i believe-i think they are both shady. He doesn't see how patient I have been. Ive also spent alot $ on him. i feel that he cares-but also think hes a scumbag for doing this to me&her.tell me how to fixit
2007-12-23 20:08:34 · 14 answers · asked by Michelle Bell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The secret to a happy life is to ONLY fall in love with guys that are respectable and available. If you fall in love before this determination, the options get much more painful. That's why you are dating, so you can find out things about him before you give into those feelings. Control your love, do this in the right order, and your future life will be MUCH Happier then starting a relationships and finding out the guy is a scumbag later on.
2007-12-23 20:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Moly. Reread everything you just wrote.
Are you always trying to get guys who keep you at a emotional distance? This guy is a player, I hate using that word but this is the only adjective that comes to mind.
If you love someone who treats you like this, then by all means, go for it. It's obviously what you like. This guy must have something big downtown for you to sink to this low level.
Stop buying him things, unless you like the title of a "sugar moma". Some relationships like this work but they are aware of their situation: all play no love.
Who cares what he does with other girls? He seems like the type who will plant his flag everywhere.
Go find someone who you like and who likes YOU. It may not be as fun as being the other girl or as dramatic as sharing him with all of your friends but atleast you can get a shot at happiness.
If your friend knows how you feel about him she is not a good friend, if she doesnt, then she isnt really shady is she.
Here's some tough love: He doesnt even seem to like you as a person. Some of the things he does can be considered cruel.
-taking your money
-lying to you
-getting back with his ex
-getting with other girls
-probably other stuff
It kind of reminds me of this movie called Fatal Attraction.
Do you often overindulge yourself into relationships? Do you have a distant relationship with your father?
I'm pretty interested how this is going to turn out, but i am assuming you will keep playin his game back until he moves onto someone new.
2007-12-23 20:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by ryan w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly recommend you to move on with your life. This guy is not even trustworthy.
If my woman ever cheated on me with her ex or even with other guys, I would forget her in a second, no matter how much I loved her.
I've been hurt in the past but I keep reminding myself that I live a short life and that I need to move on and find another partner that will be more trustworthy and who I can really love for the rest of my life.
2007-12-23 20:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest opinion?
I think you're quite a fool for allowing this to happen to yourself... BUT.. i noe how some woman love and dun let go... so u can do either one of these 2:
1) accept him how he is. be loved by him when he want to, and let him live his lifestyle the way he wants. It sounds crazy but i've seen women do this and their rationale is that, it's ok if they can't have the man ALL the time. Some of the times is good enuff - all because they LOVE him. (Crazy stuff but it's happening everywhere!)
2) forget him. move n. meet people. breathe the free air. may you find another man who loves u as much as u love him.
2007-12-23 20:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I advise you to take down a pen & paper & write what have you gained from this relationship till now.... Also note what all you have lost ( i can atleast find 5-7 above) & once you have the list,....
You know what to do
The more the difference the more admant you should be to do it,.,,, right away.. ASAP
2007-12-23 20:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ashish Samadhia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, I think you know how to fix it. You want us to validate your decision? Fine. Stop being, well what you are, and ditch this piece of human filth. You know deep down that only reason he can do this to you, is because you allow him to. Have some frickin pride, and go find a man with some class for god's sake. I think girls that continue to stay with men like this honestly like to be treated this way, or they would quit doing it.
2007-12-23 20:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by abiogeek2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wealthy guy and a undesirable guy are sitting in a bar one night. The undesirable guy asks the wealthy guy what he have been given his spouse for her birthday. "I have been given her a sparkling convertible and a 24-karat diamond ring," stated the wealthy guy. The undesirable guy, somewhat wondered by this, says "Why in the hell did you get her the two?" the wealthy guy replies, "I have been given her the two via fact if she does not like the hoop, she will take it returned in her new vehicle and replace it." After this, the wealthy guy asks the undesirable guy what he have been given his spouse for her birthday. The undesirable guy responds," I have been given her a headscarf and a couple of shoes." for sure at a loss for words, the wealthy guy asks why he chosen those products. The undesirable guy responded, " via fact if she does not like the headscarf, she will take a hike."
2016-10-09 03:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by alban 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find yourself someone that you respect and respects you.
Place your standards high, then live up to them.
2007-12-23 20:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a player, ur friend is a ***** why do u even need the two of them. get rid of them both you'd be better off.
2007-12-23 20:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leavve him b4 u are hurt...
trust me im a guy and i see something bad comming soon.
make sure u dont get ur self into trouble, and dont get ur gf's in trouble either, warn them.
2007-12-23 20:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by how_l3git 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋