Anybody else alone during the holidays?

Question

I'm a guy, early 30s, with a good education, job, and have been told that I'm pretty decent looking. I love to make people laugh and want to be social, but always had trouble making friends because of self-doubt -- I have a stutter in my speech and in my early days, I would rather stay quiet than go through the embarrassment of stuttering in front of crowds. Ironically, now I'm in a consulting job with a top-tier strategy firm (after getting my MBA) that requires me to talk a lot on the job, and I'm not sure how successful I will be. I've been single for a few years now.

Anyways, all my friends from school are married with kids and I'm not even close to having a girlfriend. My classmates at school actually ranked me as one of "hottest" guys on campus, but I haven't had much luck with girls (other than one-night stands -- haven't had meaningful relationships for a while, although I've tried). If I visit family, they keep asking why I'm single. I'm sick of it. Anyone else alone & blue?

Answer 1

You definitely are not the only one. There are many of us who have family, but they are busy with their own lives and families. After your spouse dies, you don't fit in with any of the couples you used to share times with.

God will send the right person your way. In the meantime, get involved with things you enjoy. Your local historical society, a church, or sign up to take ballroom dance lessons! When people ask you why you are single, just tell them the right girl for you hasn't come along, yet.

As for the stuttering, the book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" by The Stuttering Foundation of America and also available from Amazon.com is the book that helped my uncles and cousins who stuttered. You can meet other young stutterers at http://groups.myspace.com/stutteringfoundation.

Check your library for the above book, too, as my library has it. Who knows, you might run into that perfect girl at the library!