My boyfriend has had a stroke, he's 38 yrs old, he has damaged his left side of his brain. No change in three days! His family thinks that I shouldn't go to the hospital. They say you don't want to see him this way, and we know he wont want you to see him this way! I cant help but want to be there to support him! I am getting so depressed and feeling so alone I don't know what to do. What if he wants me there, and no one knows! I just cannot take it much longer! I am not even sure if he can think! He does rub his family skin when they talk to him,and glances at them at times so I know hes responding. I dont know how much longer I can stay away from that hospital. The family really has no clue just how close of a bond that Jimi and I have been building together. All they tell me is that its not good! How can I stay home thinking about that and not being there for him to hear my voice!I dont know if you lose your memory during a stroke,maybe he wont know me! I am no good here! HELP ME!
2007-12-23 17:00:42 · 15 answers · asked by Marsha 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
ta heck with the family and just go....you could not keep me from him if we were that close....now move it ...what are you waiting for
2007-12-23 17:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this happened to me, I would go to the hospital. If he recognizes his family, it's a really good chance he will know you too. I work with a person who had a major stroke and even though she is partially paralyzed, she can work part time and can have a regular conversation and function pretty well. His stroke doesn't have to mean the end of a regular or semi-regular life with him. Go see him. Be prepared to see him though and expect him to not be the same right now. I feel his family is trying to be protective but it's not helping you in this situation. I can't think of any reason why you wouldn't be allowed to see him either. It's obvious you need to see him and be with him. I think it will help him too!
2007-12-24 01:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, I think it is CRAZY for you, a girlfriend, not to go to the hospital to see your boyfriend. no matter what anyone (parents) think, NOBODY can take the place of a significant other. Mom (and dad) have a place in the heart of every child, but it is very different than the one you have. He needs you, and he's going to think you don't love him if you don't go. The family may be being very selfish (I hope they really are just trying to protect you) but the reality is, you need to be there to hold your boyfriend's hand and love him. He can't feel your love while you sit at home...plus, if you go, then he knows for sure you love him.
You don't know what is going to happen from this point on, but you will always have regrets if you don't go see him. Good luck! (and if you show up and the family acts surprised and mad or whatever, just smile, go tell your boyfriend you love him and be nice anyway, don't let them get to you.)
2007-12-24 01:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell down and see him!. He had a stroke, not a lobotomy. His family has no right to keep you away. They don't know what he wants any more than you do. If Jimi doesn't know you, which I doubt, he will be able to communucate that as well as he can communicate his recognition of his family by stroking their hands.You need to go. It could greatly improve his mental attitude and speed his recovery.
2007-12-24 02:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to see him, and he can have visitors outside of immediate family, then go visit.
His family seems to be a bit controlling here.. maybe they are being protective or something? I'm not sure....
Perhaps you will find more peace on the inside once you've seen and spoken to him..
I'm very sorry this has happened to your guy, and i hope that he can make a good recovery. it's a shame, he's so young.
hugs
2007-12-24 01:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you should go see him, unless you are an emotionally unstable person.
Consider checking with the hospitals 'mental health' staff to find a free talk-therapy group for the family and friends of the severely injured.
Good luck. I wish you & Jimi well.
2007-12-24 01:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by energeticthinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family sound terribly controlling and totally void of your feelings in this. The heck with them! Go and see your boyfriend. Try if possible to find a time to visit when the family won't be there.
I hope his recovery goes well.
Blessings to you both.
2007-12-24 01:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should go and that's obvious. Plus, it could help him in his recovery. I love my family, but if I was hurt I would want the person I am closest to to be there to talk to me and give me a kiss and hold my hand. A part of him may be sad and wondering why you aren't there. Sadness can make him worse.
2007-12-24 02:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see him. You have every right to do so. He will need all the support and encouragement he can get to recover from this. It takes a long time, but he WILL recover.
2007-12-24 01:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by LateRain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go.. Forget what others say. You will be able to understand the situtaion when you get there. Be brave and things will get better. Best of luck
2007-12-24 01:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Gilded A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless he's in intensive care, you should just go see him. if seeing him makes you want to run away, then you know he's not the one for you. if he's in intensive care, the family can keep you out.
2007-12-24 01:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋