ive had a girlfriend for four months and shes the love of my life. i moved away but our relationship is still strong. then i have another girl. ive known her for a year but i know her inside and out. and she knows me like that too. but now im confused. if i break up with my girl. im gonna have a hole in my heart. then if i say no to the other girl. then i dont want to break her heart and loose her as a friend. what should i do?
2007-12-23 15:07:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok. ive had a girlfriend for the past 4 months. i moved away and our relationship is strong. then ive know another girl. weve dated in the past and we broke up cause of bad timing. but heres where im stuck. im in love with both of them so bad that it hurts. what should i do?
2007-12-23 15:26:30 · update #1
watch some porn.
2007-12-23 15:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry but you don't know if she is the love of your life after four months. I am sure it feels that way to you, but you don't know it. The longer you are with a person the more you learn about them. You can think some is perfect for the first 6 months of a relationship, then 3 years later you can realize that you've found out stuff along the way that you don't much care for. I know because I've been there. Granted I love my boyfriend and I am still with him, if I would have known how he would change throughout time, I probably would not have even started dating him. At four months into the relationship though I thought he was practically an angel. You should decide by imagining 2 different scenerios.
1) You don't have your girlfriend in your life.
2) You don't have your friend in your life.
Which ever scenerio makes you the saddest is probably the girl you should chose.
2007-12-23 15:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you probably don't want advice from me because i'm a 14 year old girl. But I think that if you ABSOLUTELY love this girl you've known for a year, then you should go with her. The reasons why are:
1.You moved away and you probably don't see the girl that you've been going with for four months that much.
2.If you know this girl that well you should be with her.
But, always remember, your heart is the most important thing.
2007-12-23 15:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont break up with your girl friend she seems to be the one that your in love with. just blame it on the fact that you already have a girlfriend. tell the other girl that if you were single you would definitely like her but right now you r in a relationship and your not that kind of guy who cheats or would leave a girl for some one else if every thing is going good. that way she will still want to be your friend and respect you if you end up going out with her.
2007-12-23 15:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by xoxoxgrace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with your first girlfriend. It sounds like you love her more since you said you can't live without her and also that you'll have a hole in your heart if you break up with her. Just let the other girl down gently by explaining that you're happy in your relationship with your girlfriend.
2007-12-23 15:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot escape this without some pain. If you break up with your girlfriend, then it will heal, but yes, it will be a hole. I think that you should just see who you like better. Does your friend like you? If she does,then staying with your current girlfriend won't lose her as a friend. She will get over it.
Who do you like more? Ask this. Answer. Then you will know what to do. The thing is, you cannot escape without pain.
2007-12-23 15:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by niiro13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I say that you should tell the four monther girlfriend to take some time off but still stay strong with her. Then try out the other one and if you don't like her say well this won't work out so goodbye. But if it goes the other way then say we need to break out ok?
2007-12-23 15:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sk8ter980 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem. Sometimes because you dont want to hurt someone else u end up hurting yourself. Just look into your heart and see who you really want and love. If you dont break up with the girl you are with now, you will HURT HER EVEN MORE LATER. Its better to do things now. =)
2007-12-23 15:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Luansian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I've been there.
I was stuck like that for about a month, and then I realized something.
Do I really love him, or will I just feel bad for him if I break up with him?
You have to answer that question for yourself.
2007-12-23 15:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ally S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you like it more when you guys are just friends. If your girlfriend is that important to you and your friend is a real friend, she'll understand that you're already in lurve with someone else and she'll be happy that you're happy. Maybe her heart might be a bit broken, but it will very, very slowly start to heal.
2007-12-23 15:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be in love many times before you know the one special girl to spend your life with. Be friends with both for now and enjoy your youth.
2007-12-23 15:12:47 · answer #11 · answered by janeyw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋