i m not pregnant but i know if i will, i will have to abort a child. I am 23 and i feel like if he cannot accept my child, why am i keeping this relations. What will u do if u were in my shoes?
2007-12-23 15:01:57 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him cause you never know sometimes condums and BC can fail and abortion cost a ton of money like loads of it and could you really live with yourself for killing a human been (sp?)
2007-12-23 15:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Babycakes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, since you are not in a committed relationship, you should be taking every precaution to not become pregnant. . .or catch anything. If you know that he will not help you out if you get pregnant, then you are responsible if you become pregnant and killing your child should not be an option. At least have the baby and give it up for adoption. Give it a chance. So if the consequences of becoming pregnant are bothering you with this guy, why are you with him? He's telling you that he does not want a long term relationship or any ties to you and will not help you out. Get rid of him immediately. You deserve better and he is a jerk. You aren't his gf, just a booty call. . .
2007-12-23 15:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumped the guy. I'm an older guy and never had the chance to raise any kids but would jump at the chance to have one to raise. I'm 45 and it doesn't look like it'll happen to me at this late stage of my life. I know a girl who is now happily married and has two young boys, When she was young and partied she got pregnant at least twice and had them both aborted. I can't but help but think that she must look into her boys eyes and feel pain thinking back about when she made the mistake to abort. Just plan on getting child support I guess if you can't make the right decision to leave him now!
2007-12-23 15:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by blue_cobra_driver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a sad situation, but I have been in it myself. My boyfriend of 4 years left me when I got pregnant, and now claims to love his child but spends little or no time with him. If I were in your shoes, I would leave him. If he would rather you abort a baby that was his just because he would not want it, he may not be on the same page as you are in life. There are plenty more men out there, and one of them is bound to be right for you. Do whatever you feel is right for you, but if I were in your shoes, I would hit the ground running now.
2007-12-23 15:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Thumbsupper! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's very easy to not get pregnant. If he's so set against it, he should be wearing a condom to make sure. Sounds to me, though, like there are more problems here, than just this one issue. I don't know if he's being verbally or mentally abusive to you, but it doesn't sound like you feel good about yourself when you're with him. Maybe you need to talk to a counselor or someone like that about your self esteem. Is this a pattern for you? You are a wonderful person, a child of the most high God and you deserve so much better than this in your life! You are in my prayers. I hope you find the way to a better life for yourself.
2007-12-23 15:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man you can respect, who respects you. Here are the facts, he doesn't want a baby , and he doesn't want a baby with you. As a famous example, look a Clint Eastwood and Sondra Locke, his old girlfriend ( she was in all the Dirty Harry movies, and the movies with the orangutan). According to her biography, she spent her youth with him, had a bunch of abortions on his request, and when she turned 40ish, he dumped her. Now he has small children with a young woman. So I guess he really did want children.
Get out now. You have a whole life before you, and live it the way YOU want it
2007-12-23 15:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by always b natural 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you if he cannot love what comes from the affirmation of that love...a child............drop him, he probably doesn't even love you, and most likely came from a bad childhood- thus not wanting children, and wasn't loved as a child and therefore cannot really KNOW how to love.......good luck to you.......but there are a lot of nice guys out there- so stop looking in the loser-insecure aisle and move to the nice guy aisle-it's aisle 7 where the Red Light Special is blinking!!!
2007-12-23 15:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by mac 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well..since he doesn't want to be the father of ur baby,if i'm u,i will not keep the baby.i will abort it,i knew i will do that.about the relationship..dun worry,there are a lot of couples out there now who didn't want any children!so if i'm u,i will keep the relationship.but there's this big problem:if both of u marry,will ur parents or his parents agree on a ''no-children'' marriage.sure,they will let u marry if they like both of u to be 2gether,but they will like to have grandchildren,right?so....but then,if u guys marry,maybe u two should juz ask ur parents to wait for a short time..until u guys made ur final decision.
2007-12-23 15:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by PrIsCiLiA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow the proper order in life and shun any living according to the liberal code of insanity.
1. Dating with no sex (otherwise knows as keeping one's legs shut).
2. Marriage.
3. Children.
That's what I would do if I were in you shoes. Shun any type of activity that has been promoted by liberalism, which is the plague of the modern era. You will then have order in your life and your problem (that never should have existed in the first place) will be solved.
2007-12-23 15:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you know you're going to abort your child, then use birth control..
why would you put yourself in that position? Talk to women that have had abortions; it takes an emotional and physical toll on you.
2007-12-23 15:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by hawaiifyrefly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have a kid already and you feel he does not want to be a father to them, then you have to talk to him about it and if that does not help. Leave him. You will only be hurting your child by letting them get attached to that person.
2007-12-23 15:05:42 · answer #11 · answered by djdraino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋