Hey folks, I spent time with my nephew yesterday who is 7. His folks told us that he doesn't kiss people, and he doesn't like to hug people (although he does). One of his aunts tried to kiss him, and he seriously freaked. What is up with this? What is the deal with a 7 year old who hates the prospect of someone touching him affectionately? He has an older brother and younger sister who are not like that.
2007-12-23 14:56:55 · 10 answers · asked by coverotherollingstone 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
the child has all the right to express himself, his likes and dislikes; at the same time he needs to be taught that when someone does something he dislikes...have him tell an adult.
that's what I teach my daughter who's also 7 and dislikes that as well. so the child needs to be respected and the other person needs to back off, then avoid the approach at all costs. shaking hands or even smiling is a better form of greeting and courtesy.
and I'd like to express that too much affection....
....can be dangerous.
2007-12-25 14:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by alizelatina41 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He might be going through a phase where he doesn't want other people to be kissing and hugging on him, especially those he does not see often.
Really, can you remember when you were a kid and some older lady with red lipstick and wrinkles, who you sort of "know" but really never see, wants you to KISS HER? I remember and YUCK....
also some people require more "personal space" than others, so they may not show their affection for others by hugging, kissing and hanging all over them... there are other ways to say "i love you" or "i like you".
2007-12-23 19:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he prolly doesnt know you or your side of the family well enough if you had to be told he doesnt like hugs or kisses... I could see how a 7 year old would not wantto kiss or hug anyone that they really werent super close with.
I dont like hugging or kissing alot of people but my kids and close family members. I was not molested and i am not weird.. actually he prolly thinks u guys are weird for wanting to get that personal to someone u dont really know all that well LOL
2007-12-24 04:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by missology 101 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i agree that some people just appreciate more personal space than others. it doesn't mean anything, except that everyone should respect his wishes and show their affection in words rather than hugs and kisses. why would someone try to kiss a kid who has made it clear they don't want to be kissed?
i'd add that lots of people don't like hugs and kisses from people they don't know well, which may include relatives you only typically see around the holidays.
2007-12-24 03:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by ... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could just be a phase he is going through like he thinks its "not cool" to kiss or hug. Or it could be much more than that he could have been molested or raped and dosent trust anyone, feels violated, and is scared if anyone gets close to him. I think the best bet is to talk to him. If he's 7 ask something like "why wont you hug me" or "are you afraid to hug me, why, and you can trust me". But, I would make sure I checked this out because it sounds bad like something could be going on.
2007-12-23 15:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cooties, kids that age learns about "cooties" and I remember when I was in elementary school, all the boys had cooties and you should never ever be close to them. The boys in elementary were the same, the opposite gender were always the one with cooties. It's a phase I suppose if he refuses to get kisses or hugs from females.
2007-12-24 04:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That can be a sign of a lot of things.
Aspergers/autism, molestation, not cool enough, or maybe he just hates hugs.
I don't like hugs either. I have a pretty intense fear of being smothering/choking (I really don't know why) and it's just too close for comfort for me, unless it's done by my boyfriend who I completely trust.
2007-12-23 16:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a sensory thing. He is probably having a hard enough time adjusting to more people, noises, smells, and then the touch. It's enough to send anyone over the edge.
2007-12-23 15:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's just how boys are, now if you told me it was a girl, now that's a reason for panic, lol. Girls tend to be affectionate, boys more tough.
2007-12-23 22:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its how 7year old boys all they think if they hug and kiss it will not make them cool
2007-12-23 15:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by bumbee14 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋