I grew up in a Christian & Hindu household. I learned about both religions growing up. I took religion classes in college, to learn about different faiths.
Fast forward to today, I am in a loving relationship with a Muslim man, we're both in our mid 20's, and we're considering marriage one day.
I would never ask him to convert, in order to marry me. But...I have a feeling its just assumed that I would become a muslim in order to marry him, to make his mom happy. I dont think she would let us get married if I wasnt muslim to be honest.
I love him, and this whole religion thing is really throwing me for a loop!
Do I have to convert? I've been doing some research and it says that I dont have to convert, because muslim men can marry christians or jews, just not other religions.
So my research says one thing, and his mom says another. What do I do...
2007-12-23 14:28:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What you have researched is the truth, Muslim men can marry Christians or Jews and they do not have to convert. Actually no Muslim would expect you to convert in order to get married because choosing to be a Muslim is a decision based on believing it is the true religion for you. The only exception is that a man who wants to marry a Muslim woman must convert. That is because their religion/culture believes the children to follow the husband's religion and since they don't want anyone leaving the religion the husband must convert. His mother is just trying to pressure you. You need to tell your fiance that you have no desire to convert and that he needs to tell his mother to accept you for who you are and not pressure you. If he wants you to convert then you should tell him what I stated about it being a personal religious decision.
2007-12-23 15:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was flipping through channels today, and stopped on this show on my PBS station: http://www.3faiths1god.com/index.htm
There was a woman who spoke about how she married a Muslim man, but herself was a Christian. She said you need to be of an Abrahamic religion to marry a Muslim man.
Read this article on About.com. It's short, and explains how there is a small exception to the Muslims-must-marry-Muslims rule.
http://islam.about.com/blinterfaith.htm
If you practice Christianity, you should be able to marry him. You should still speak with him, and perhaps if he is unsure he could speak with the leaders at his mosque.
2007-12-23 23:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by ennie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are chrestian or jew, then there is no problem to marry each other.
BUT....
it is not just a matter of applying rules. believes are one of the most important things in human life. religion is the link between you and God. so your choice for a certain religion represents the way you want to worship God. in other words, your love to a certain person either his mom or him mustn't have any influence on your choice.
believe me, he will respect you more if you choosed your religion because of your faith, not for just loving him.
i wonder if you will accept my advice, try to invistigate islam. you will not lose anything if you did. i'm sure if you want to know God more and more, you will find the solution in islam. just try....
2007-12-24 11:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ahmed.A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend has been married to a muslim for 9 yrs. he prays towards mecca 5 times a day and she attends sunday masses every week......
2007-12-24 17:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love how religion gets in the way of people being happy.
2007-12-24 01:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by o2thx 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ask him what he expects you to do & what he wants you to do (take note these are 2 different points). think about what he will tell you. for now, there's no problem yet since he hasnt even told you that you should convert to islam.
2007-12-23 22:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by marmalade 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does he say? I think you should worry about his opinion, not his mom's. And if you don't want to, and he really loves you, he should stand up for you and say you don't have to do what you don't feel comfortable doing.
2007-12-23 22:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Selsa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to his church or whever it is his mom attends for religious ceremonies, and ask them. They'll be the best people to advise you on what's required and what your options are.
2007-12-24 01:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Fluff S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never ever convert if you do not want to.
2007-12-25 17:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must convert to marry a muslim. if you dont, he is not considered a muslim as well when both of you get married.
2007-12-23 22:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋