i'm a generally nice person, friendly, smart, ambitious and thus far accomplished. i'm shy at first but when i open up i'm really funny and all that good stuff. i don't think i'm pretty but people have told me that i am and that i have a great body, etc. (i was very insecure when younger and i guess that still lingers). i have had guys who stare at me when i go out, guys who have had crushes on me throughout the yrs.....
but i've never had a bf. i'm in college. what's wrong with me?
2007-12-23 14:22:11 · 18 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out on the prowel, be proactive about it.
2007-12-23 14:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by <3 I LOVE MICHAEL <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words answer your question,"what's wrong with me?"-
"Absolutely Nothing."
Many,in fact almost ALL women in their late teens and early 20's are STILL very much insecure about their body image,
fitting in with certain crowds of people.And in college,of course, its made a lot more stressfull by the factor of grades being more of a competitive nature than they were back in highschool.You appear to be a young women,who recognizes that you ARE pretty,and you DO have qualities that guys find attractive.Take pride in the fact that guys take notice of you.
Make friends with the guys that take notice.If they are willing to be your friend,and treat you with respect that you deserve,
then eventually you will find that you begin to develop possibly more serious friendships as time goes on. Guys can be complicated ,in that its hard to know what they are looking for in a woman at times. Thats not a put down to guys at all. They just worry less about the things that we do. I hope Im making sense! I guess what IM TRYING SO HARD to say, is this.
You seem to have self esteem,Its just a bit shakey,and occassionally u need to remind yourself that YOU are very bright,and have many other great inner qualities,as well as outer,that others have even told you they recognize. The way
we see ourselves is never the same as others see us.We are our harshest critics.Go easy on yourself for awhile.Its hard,
I KNOW. But when you do,you let your insecurities go just a little,so that your personality can shine through, and THATS what people see.Admittedly,they do see the pretty face too,but in a different light.You may find your concerns over having never had a b/f are less,and your confidence rises.
Lastly,Sometimes a relationship,at least i kinda believe this,
I hope u dont think I'm silly.But sometimes, maybe, people arent meant to have them too early in life for a reason.
So that when that person DOES find that special person,
Its just that,......Special.
Have fun being you.Have friends.Be carefull,But make friends with the guys first.Dont be too anxious about being a certain age and having NOT accomplished "a boyfriend". Be proud you never "settled", JUST to have a boyfriend.
It Will Happen for you. When you least expect it. PLEASE don't worry.
I hope Ive helped a little. I could have explained this better than typed it. I do hope it was clear .
Sincerely.
S.Leeder
2007-12-23 15:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by S Leeder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a better outlook. Men can tell whether you're open to them or not. That's the whole back story to "love spells" that witches cast. Basically you mix some herbs together and say an incantation and then put the herbs on your body or drink a potion. Do you know what you're really doing? The herbs make you smell good. The "potion" is something that makes your pheromones go crazy (men unconsciously can smell your pheromones), and the incantation is nothing more than a morale booster. If you believe it'll work, then it will. That's why "love spells" usually fail. Change your morale and open yourself up to the guys around you - don't be so scared or worried especially about your looks. You're sexy and pretty to someone, even if it isn't to yourself. :)
2007-12-23 14:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just not close enough to any guys for them to make a move. I haven't had that many boyfriends, all of them happened to be from my group of friends or from clubs/school activities. Maybe try getting more guy friends, and you'll happen to get a boyfriend in the process.
2007-12-23 14:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Beth K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing,just wait for someone to come to you because as you describe your self you are pretty. You just got a low self asteem,you have people telling you you are pretty keep that in mind. Just from reading that I see that you just need to go in the mirror and say positive things.
2007-12-23 15:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tatiana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt get a boyfriend till i was 21 and he was a loser.
I got my fiancee at age 23, now im 24 and dont reject not having more boyfriends. Hes the one for me.
Dont worry about it, focus on college
2007-12-23 14:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mom to one cute boy! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing. Maybe you just intimidate them some. Try making a conversation with a guy and being just a little flirty. But the right guy will come along eventually, don't sweat it.
2007-12-23 14:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are just scared or nervous to ask you. Also, a guy might think you are taken if you have both a good personality and good looks. I think if you really wanted one, then you should ask a guy out, as unorthodox as it might be.
Good luck!
2007-12-23 14:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with you, you just have to break past the evil wall of shyness. its either that or the right person hasnt come along yet. ull know when u meet him
2007-12-23 14:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by shebsheb6172825529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had a GF in collage
So what`s the big deal
2007-12-23 14:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by MY LORD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋