I really like this girl. Shes 18, I'm 19...neither of us have had a BF/GF... She drives me crazy... when i see her at church, in SS, when none of her family is around, she'll smile and laugh at me, look at me alot, etc... When i see her around her family (her parents are WAY overprotective, to a point where its actually a bad thing, and her little siblings tattle on EVERYTHING), she doesnt really talk to me/ look at me, and almost seems to avoid me... We talk a bit around them, but mostly only briefly...Its like two different world, like night and day difference... Shes not the "playing" type, so dont get the wrong idea.
Also, if I see her when shes alone/ stop to talk to her at her work, she's shy/ nervous, until i joke around/ make her laugh, then she opens up. Am i reading too much into nothing, or is she just afraid of judgement from her parents (mainly her mother)?
Opinions? I can give more specific details/ situations that confused me mainly, if interested.
2007-12-23 14:16:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know her family/ parents, but they dont abuse her... even though I've known the family for a long time, they're still WAY overproterctive. Their older daughter rebelled, and thats why they're the way they are. I really like her though, and will gladly wait as long as it takes, as long as i get the feeling shes into me...thats all that woirries me, and all I'm really looking for opinions on. =)
2007-12-23 14:27:21 · update #1
They dont have a problem with me at all, unless it involves their daughter. They dont mind me as a person, but its like they're afraid to let her like me, so they put the fear of God in her by being overprotective. O_o
2007-12-23 14:29:51 · update #2
Hhmm, it does sound like "controlling parents" are the issue. It also sounds like if she lets you too close that they may have strong opinions on the matter! Point being that she probably knows what their reaction would be... and this is her way of trying to avoid that particular confrontation with them? Best Advice is to be persistant ( as long as you know that she does like you for sure! ) then she'll come to trust you and it can only grow from there!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-12-23 14:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by q dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like her family is very controlling and she has fear, which is not good at all.
You are reading her correctly and you need to decide if you want to deal with this or not, because if you want to ask her out, you will have quite a problem there with the parents and siblings.
At worst, this family could be hiding a terrible secret of abuse behind closed doors. Some Christian families especially in fanatical denominations, can be controlling, manipulating and abusive. No child should ever be afraid to speak to someone at that age, so something is wrong.
2007-12-23 22:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like she is afraid that her parents might find out. You said they are overprotective. Does she look scared around them, withdrawn, has she shown any sign of abuse? If no, then perhaps you need to try striking up a conversation with the parents, get to know them, and let them get to know you. Do this without letting them know about your feelings for her. Perhaps you can get a group together and all go out together, this might make the parents more comfortable. Wish you all the luck
2007-12-23 22:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seems like she is scared, as you said she didnt have a bf before and her parents are overprotective and also she is shy, so maybe she doesnt wanna call her parents attention and so their tell not to see you again. So advise go slow, and you will get her, you just need her to trust you thats all. She is just scared bc its a whole new thing
2007-12-23 22:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her parents are not wanting her to be in a relationship right now. If the moment comes up when the two of you are talking, bring up the question and see what type of answer you are to get. Otherwise, enjoy the moments you two are having.
2007-12-23 22:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it seems like shes afraid of what her family will say if they see her talking to a boy. She probably likes you and is just shy. When I was 18 my dad was reallly strict and i would do the same exact thing.
2007-12-23 22:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just not want her parents getting into stuff like that... I know I wont even talk to guys from my work when she's there... It's just awkward with your parents watching even if you're not flirting... Maybe she's really shy.. you did say she's never had a boyfriend..
2007-12-23 22:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is afraid that her mom will be mad at her if she flirts with you. My mom is over protective and I'm afraid to talk to guys in front of her. Talk to her and ask her why she's is so different around her parents, maybe she will tell you, p.s. make her laugh before you talk to her.
2007-12-23 22:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by KC (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably knows that if she talks to u to much while her parents are there they wont let you see her anymore. Maybe their overprtective becuase of a bad thing that happened to her before. Just make a good impression on them and wear 'good,nice' clothes adn talk to HER about this if she gets alittle mad apologize {i doubt it though she sounds nice} Just be her friend and take things slow.
2007-12-23 22:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's you, i think because she's afraid her parents will suspect something bad, she's trying to cover up her feelings for you when she is around her family, next time you talk to her at work, just ask her to a movie or something.
2007-12-23 22:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by ella! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋