I recently seperated from my fiance about 3 months ago, during that time I guess I got lonely and started seeing this other guy. I never gotten completely over my ex even though I seperated from him because of cheating issues on his part. I still love him and want to be with him its just a matter of rebuild the trust if I can and Ive been afraid to give it another try. He keeps telling me he has changed and he wants to be with me. He never physically cheated on me but he had online flirting relationships with women, recieving inappropriate pictures. Now I have this other guy in the picture and he is so sweet to me and he is so much fun to be around he could be a great boyfriend, he is trying to be patient. I really like him at the same time and would like to get to know him better I just dont know how I would fit in his life he is twice my age. I feel like I have made a mess I am torn between two guys. I like him yet I still love my ex, and I dont know who to move forward with.
2007-12-23 13:52:01 · 3 answers · asked by ecuaprincessachi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we seperated once before when my fiance had plans to meet one of these girls from the internet. i love him to death i dont want to be hurt again and that makes it so hard to make a real decision.
2007-12-23 13:58:56 · update #1
Follow your heart...and do the right thing... you know deep down inside who you REALLY want.
2007-12-23 13:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by BrainlessGenius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Just because he didn't physically cheat, he emotionally cheated--just as bad and remember, if he'll cheat emotionally, he will most likely cheat physically. So don't try to excuse his actions, which you are doing.
I think you don't understand that for a guy to "change" is not easy and they just take their cheating covert. So, you will find it very difficult to trust him again and it will take lots of time to have him prove himself again.
I think your "rebound" sounds like a great guy, too bad he is a rebound. That is a very immature thing to do to another person, so I feel for him since you said he is great.
My opinion is this; dump the ex and tell the rebound that you want to take things slow, but you still want to take things down a path of getting to know each other.
After that, if rebound is still patient, I suggest you really get over the ex and start to heal and move on. Counseling, talk therapy, would be good for you to get this out and see what an unbiased person says too.
2007-12-23 22:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the ex, look for the next.
The dude twice your age isn't after your youth, he is after his own..doesn't seem like a great option either.
I think you should start completely from scratch.
Be single for awhile and itll be a matter of time youll find someone new. without all the drama and the weight of the past.
a completely new start. :)
2007-12-23 21:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Don't Give Up On Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋