What would you do if your friend did this to you?

Question

There is this girl that I love more than anything... but she doesn't notice me. It makes me so sad, but all I have is a picture of her... so I use it to imagine when I masturbate. Well, my friend found out. (He asked me if I did, but I denied it. He could tell though by the way I was blushing. So I admitted it.)
Well, he likes her too, and told her. Now I am so embarrassed I want to kill myself. She just thinks I am a perv, and now she will never like me.

I am not talking to my friend anymore. What should I do?

I am 17 and so are they.

Answer 1

Masturbation is a normal ritual for men and a lot of men masturbate using a variety of methods to derive pleasure like self-stimulation, the use of props like pictures,so you might be in a very good company.Your friend is no friend and you need to cut him off.As to the girl, admit the truth to her; tell her that you love her very much and her picture was the closest you ever felt you can get to her.That you never thought you had any chance with her and you are not a pervert but a man in love.That you like her very much and wish you had a chance to be with her.

Answer 2

Just act like nothing ever happened. Your "friend" is going to bust you forever with that piece of information. The best thing you can do is to not show any reaction. If anyone asks you about it, you just have to brush it off as if it is a silly kindergartener joke that you don't have time to be bothered with. And when people say, "John said you are . . . " the most you should say is, "Whatever. He's an idiot." This is easier said than done, but the more you react to it, the more people are going to put stock in it. If you can basically ignore it, people will eventually let it go for the most part. As for the girl, let her go. Forget about her. From now on, don't be telling anyone anything you wouldn't say in front of your entire class.

Answer 3

he's winding you up.. making you feel jealous and stuff.. he's picking on you...yet. you could make new friends that care more about you and your feelings, rather than this guy that likes to take important things / feelings away from you. Masturbation is normal for your age, no way can that make you a perv, cos loads of guys do it, and are the most nicest guys ever. If she thinks of you so low, that clearly she is blind, and can't see what your really like inside. Falling in love with someone pretty.. is easy, but falling in love with someone that feels the same inside there hearts is the best thing ever.

Answer 4

Wow... Well the best thing you can do is be honest with her, and clear the air for both you and her. First off, you need to apologize to her for any disrespect you have produced. Tell her honestly that you indeed did masturbate to her picture, because of the fact that you find her attractive and that you are interested in her. Also ask her if she has any interest towards you, for you would like to get to know her better. If she says no and continues to look at you with disgust, then it is time to move on and find a woman who is interested in you. Who will be willing to offer friendship, companionship, and not just a picture for you to masturbate with. Hope it helps...

Answer 5

No offense, but she doesn't seem to know your or vice versa. Maybe you should get to know her before claiming that you love her. Plus. I'd see if your friend misses you or possibly regrets what he did. If he does, and apologizes, then you should consider forgiving. But if he chooses what will probably be a quick fling with this girl over your friendship, then you didn't lose much.

Pull her aside one day and tell her that you all need to talk, claim that it was a joke/rumor that got way out of hand, and that you hope she doesn't honestly believe that, your not that type of guy to do such a thing, and because of this, you've been completely humiliated.

I'm not sure if it'll work, but I really don't think you should crawl back to your friend, let him come to you, if he does at all.

Answer 6

Your friend is an immature child and should not have told her. Your not a perv and Im sure he thinks about someone too when he masturbates. The fact that you could admit who you were thinking about tells me that you are much more mature and aware of yourself than he is. Dont worry about her, in no time you will start thinking about another woman. -alan

Answer 7

That "person", and I am using the term loosely here, WAS NEVER YOUR FRIEND.

Tough lesson kid, I'm really sorry. In a year or two none of this will matter but it's pretty sucky right now.

Pretend he made the whole thing up, and be more careful who you tell these things in the future.

There is nothing wrong with what you've been doing so long as you keep it to yourself...

Answer 8

What an asshole thing for your friend to do.
He should be your wingman! Not trying to hinder you!

Seriously. You're completely justified about not talking to him anymore. Although, if you wanted, you could tell the girl he was lying. She'll probably believe you over him, because considering how she doesn't even really know much about you... it DOES seem a little outlandish. If I were you, I would lie. Save yourself some face. Say something shitty about him, like about how he does that to a photo, but was too embarassed to say that about himself but he wanted to know how a girl would react to it.

Answer 9

haha how old are you guys? you shouldnt be embarrassed about that, just be like "hey man she's hot of course i jack off to her"
but the girl will probably think your a perv but ehh just find a new girl

Answer 10

the "right, if we lived in a perfect world answer" would be to not let some girl get between a good friendship, but would a real friend do something like what he did? if not, then you should find a friend who treats you well, and who doesn't judge you, because we true friends dont try and pass judgement over your life. good luck!!