I went to church today with one of my friends. All she talked about was how she can't stand how stupid her coworker is. The whole day i ate with her, and watched movie- shes being so negative! About everything!... I feel a heavy weight everytime I'm around her. I don't want to bring this into new year. so what do I do? do i help her? or what
2007-12-23 12:12:51 · 21 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You have to tell her. She wont feel bad if you kindly ask her to be more positive. Or say something like "I have this one friend who is always so negative and it is getting on my nerves." Work it into a conversation and she may see this in herself and change.
2007-12-23 12:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by nohandtyper 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first person who said that you should tell her. From someone who has been on the other side of the fence I wouldn't say drop her totally. Your friend maybe experiencing so much that she may not be able to share with anyone. Things may have happened in her life that has caused her to have low self esteem and see things negatively. Start out by telling her that maybe she's just exaggerating, things may not be as bad as they seem.
2007-12-23 20:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her to the good news of the Lord and keep up positive conversations and ask good questions like: "If you could say all the accomplishments you did last year , what are they and how you can you improve them?"
If all else fails, then you might just have to drop her like a rock!
I'm just joking! LOL. But seriously, you have to help her or else you will have no option but to have her leave your life. It has happened to me before. But God has just kept me on. That's the most important thing. I hope that you are able to teach your friend that.
2007-12-23 20:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ployers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some people that you can't help.
Some people come into our lives for us to help them, others come into our lives for us to learn humility (some can't be helped by us, they need a Greater power).
I had a friend that was like that, and I laid it out for her.
Stop being negative (at least around me) or find someone else to unload on.
I didn't like doing it, and she got very defensive. But after 3 years of trying to help her see the good in others and the "silver lining" in the clouds, I realized it was beyond me.
I left it to Him.
2007-12-23 20:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
LIMIT your time with this person.
There is no way to tell her because if she is negative she will instantly get on the defensive....
you might try changing the subject when she starts but it would be easier to just put some distance between you and her
why allow this to bring down your life
2007-12-23 20:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is an energy vampire, people who suck the positive energy out of you, people who constantly burden you with their problems and bitternes or negativity, I would visualize a large mirror reflecting back all her negativity and a pink warm light surrowing you and if you are able to get away from her even better.
2007-12-23 20:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by pura_rosa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes people get into a rut myself included where they focus on one thing and that is the thing that makes or break their day, she may not realize she is being so negative
2007-12-23 20:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by daisyduck4007 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what's on your mind! If she doesn't listen or gets angry then ditch her. You deserve to be around positive friends. I hate negative people! That's also a pet peeve of mine.
2007-12-23 20:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say something positive every time she says something negative.
And be careful not to say negative things about this friend.
2007-12-23 20:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Honest Opinion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. Ask her why is she being so negative. Try to help her. But if she won't accept your help, get more positive friends.
2007-12-23 20:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by jill45690 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋