Because, I have said so !!?

Question

Is it justified in a committed relationship that after trying very hard to make your wife understand; a man can tell her:

"Just do it !! because, I have said so"

May be under the assumption that it is good for the relationship to work in the long run. May be she is having a PMS or somthing...

Is it appropriate for a women to do the same?

I understand the sensitivities, but if hours and hours of compasionate explaination cant make her understand than what will?
Dont you think at times one has to put his foot down.

BTW I am not married or committed.

Thanks Rachel, you are heading for another best answer ;) Just like there cant be two presidents in a cournty similarly in family one has to arbitrate things.

Assuming a considerate person, what if her preferences are against the preferences of her spouse and she is insistent despite his patient efforts to make her understand.

I dont see anything special about 2007 it is ancient history for ppl living in 2050.
Should we go bananas just because it 2007.

Answer 1

my fiance do that but just as a joke. you need to give her a real reason.

Answer 2

That is never appropriate for either a man or a woman to do to a partner, certainly not in 2007, and certainly not in most countries. Adults ought to be able to speak like adults and reason with one another. A woman is not a child, nor is she chattel. Same thing with a man. If you can't explain your reasoning for something well enough to convince your partner, then you are either not using sufficiently robust reasons, or - you might not have considered this - you might actually be wrong! Deciding that her reasons can be dismissed because you think she has PMS is really lame. Communication involves both speaking, listening, and hearing, on both sides.

You reference "hours and hours of compassionate explanation" - eh, but were all the rest of us standing behind the door when the brains were given out? You seem to feel that you have a monopoly on truth. If you are spending that long "explaining" something, then YOU are not listening, and you are just being inflexible, and more than likely, wrong. I'm glad to hear you are neither married or in a committed relationship, but you really ought not to enter into one, unless you want to be with a woman who is a complete doormat. No modern woman would put up with that, nor should she.

Answer 3

You're "trying very hard to make your wife understand" something -- but maybe she does understand you perfectly well, she just doesn't AGREE with you. Apparently though, you're not listening to what she has to say. If she does not want to do whatever it is you want her to do, you must talk to her and find out why and take her thoughts and opinions into account. You can't simply assume that you are always right and that she is simply being silly or having PMS or something.

Your wife's opinions and beliefs are just as important and worth considering as yours are. Committed relationships are about compromise between equals, not one person giving orders to the other.

Answer 4

I think it is appropriate for couples to compromise, but "because I said so" sounds more like a order from a parent to a child than an adult in a marriage.

Answer 5

no you shouldnt say that to your wife because thats disrespectful and it makes it seem like you are controlling and you think you have power over her when actually you dont and it goes both ways both of you have the same amount of power and saying because i said so doesnt really work with adults

Answer 6

The five words that everyone wants to hear.
No, it is not acceptable.

Answer 7

i feel so sorry for your wife! you sound like a rude idiot, why did she marry you? you cannot tell her that!

Answer 8

donnnnnnt say that to a woman.
really.
she will not appreciate it.
...
very patronizing

Answer 9

ya umm? dont say that to your wife.