I've been a stay at home mom and a full-time student trying to get my prereqs done for nursing school. My fiance told me recently that he doesn't want to work on things anymore... refused to try counseling and said he's tired of arguing all the time. So, I have to leave.
My name is on the house we bought together... so I would not be able to qualify for housing assistance (I think). He can't get my name off the house because of the market dropping and our house not really even being worth what we paid for it a yr ago.
I feel like I have no alternative but to move home with my parents which is killing me. My mom has made it known numerous times that she doesn't want her kids moving home after they've left.
I could get a job but it wouldn't be enough to support myself in this area. It will take me 3 yrs to finish nursing school. I don't know what to do. I feel like a loser. I'm 30, no money and heartbroken.
Advice?
2007-12-23 11:28:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your Fiance is not willing to work on your problems, just let him go. In the end he isn't worth all the heartache you will have. Been there, done that......many years ago. The best advice I can give you is to move back in with your parents, if he is going to pay for the house himself. If he isn't and he wants money from you, then you get some advice on that house situation and you should be able to stay there, your are the one with the little one to keep safe. If you fiance is a fighter, please, just walk away from him and keep yourself safe. Your parents will look out for you and your little one so that you can get your life together. Believe me the most important thing is that little one you have. Years down the road you will know what I mean. Always make sure your child knows you love them and someone , someday will come along who deserves you and your child. I have lived it and I know. Being safe is the most important and your life will be fine. Living with someone who doesn't want you is a terrible life. If your fiance is willing to sell the house, you should be able to split the money. It may not be much or anything in such a short time, but it would be better than being obligated to him. Also, keep your Nursing Degree in site.....that will help you in the future. You are still young, let your parents help you.
Good Luck to you and your little one and My Best is being sent your way. Don't feel like a loser, because you are Not!
Keep your chin up.
2007-12-23 12:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by AngelD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you and the child need to leave, why can't he leave and you stay? Your name's on the house, too, and it doesn't sound like you have another place to go -- plus this is for your child's sake. Is this his child, too? If you're going to be taking care of the child full time still -- then maybe that could be part of the deal in him letting you stay at the house with him finding another place.
Will he be paying child support if you're still taking care of the child full time? Or is he going to share in the responsibility as well? If so, that may help you out in being able to get at least a part time job to squeeze in your schedule.
Make sure to finish your degree if that's what you want. If there's a will, there's a way!
I'm 30, too, and things are difficult for me as well. Just hang in there!
2007-12-23 11:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Fauna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I'm 30, broke, and heartbroken, too.
My parents wouldn't let me move back in.
If your parents are willing, go. Stay in school. And do dishes and laundry for your parents.
Three years is worth it. When the market picks up, sell the house. Then you may be able to leave sooner.
It's not easy. But you know that. Concentrate on the future you will provide for your child.
Best of luck.
2007-12-23 11:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by majicatus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much.Since youre not married you cant se for divorce with spousal support and retain the house because of the child here. You are entitled to child support which may help some but not enough. Other than selling your soul to the devil and making a deal with your bf, parents house may be the only option unless youve some friends that will let you stay there. Maybe it wont be so bad and it always could be worse.Think of your child first. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-23 12:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it happens 2 the best of us and we have 2 keep living 2 learn. 1st of all he can't htrow u out if your name is on the house. so if at all possible split it up 2 where yall both have yall own space. u have the kid so u shouldn't be the one 2 leave. for 2 sell the house and split the profit
2007-12-23 11:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Spruill!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop some of your class our tack some online ones to help on gas
send your child to a friends house not to the sitters pay than less
talk to your parents (even if not that close )
then they might ask what they can do to help
*find a man it easy-er with 2
and if one is there tell him to step up a Lil
but kind of nice way : -)
2007-12-23 11:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋