Im really great friends with this guy, we have alot in common and get along really amazingly,we flirt all the time and i have always gotten the feeling that he liked me but i never used to consider him romantically
that is until recently...
the problem is one of my close friends has told me that she likes him
at the time i told her i was happy for her but on the inside i felt jealous... i was really confused because i never thought of him in that way before and now i cant stop thinking about him...
i know i should back off for my friends sake but i feel such a connection with him(like ive never felt with anyone before), and i know he feels the connection with me.
i love my friend and i dont want to hurt her
is there anything i can do?
2007-12-23 10:49:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if he likes her like that you should back off but if he likes you and not her you should go for it because it wouldnt work out between them anyway and if you odnt you will always wonder what could hae been or what would have happened but you should ask your friend about you dating him first if shes a good friend and you want to keep her as a friend
2007-12-23 10:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by khinman14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand the truth of where you're standing at all times. First of all, your feelings for this guy may not be real because they didn't come up until someone else expressed an interest in him. That's Human Nature 101: People want what they can't have. But if you decide your feelings are real, then you need to understand the emotional hierarchy of romance. If your friend was involved with this guy when you came on the scene, stepping aside would be the noble, and honorable thing to do. But as things stand now, your friend has expressed a liking for him, but he is in no way attached to either one of you, so stepping aside for her benefit would be silly. He's not anyone's boyfriend, so there's no relationship to harm. There are two old sayings that apply here: (This first one is Shakespearean) "This above all, to thine own self be true..." which suggests that you should always be honest and true to your own passions, and "All's fair in love and war...", which is pretty much self-explanatory. Does any of this help you in your decision-making process? Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-23 11:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me from experience if you talk to your friend about it you can pretty much come to any conclusion. If she blows up about then she's not that great a friend to have anyway. I had that problem with my friend Ashley, as it turns out the guy was one of my really good friends too. That probably helped the cause but now she doesn't even like him, (so we are officially going out). Don't worry, what ever you choose its going to be ok because what really matters is how you feel and what is going to affect you personally.
2007-12-23 10:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Maren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont want to be honest with neither.. then you just go with the flow .. because if you and this guy are meant to be all will work out! As much as it might be painful too see ur friend and this guy together just remeber that if its meant to be he will be in your life at the appointed time. But truley i think you should be honest about your feelings as hard as it may be ..because life is too short to sit around and not share love or feelings to someone that is very meaningful in your life! .. goodluckk hope you choose the right thing to help this situation!!! CIAOOO
2007-12-23 11:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, is your friend close to him as you are? Maybe you can observe to see if she wants to be close to him and if she does, what does he do. If he pushes her away (not literally) then maybe he wants to spend time with you but if he interacts with both of you, he might think its best to remain friends. You should also try opening up with him. Maybe he feels the same way. If you want to open up with him but are too shy to say it, maybe you can just beat around the bush, or play truth or dare, lol. But if your friend wants to be with him too and you want to be a good friend then you should think probably think about her being a good friend. Also, does she know you like him? Hopefully that gave some ideas.
2007-12-23 10:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by <3TakingBackSunday<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why male and fe ales can't be friends for long.
2007-12-23 10:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by mike41373 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your friend that you like him too.
don't say your sorry though, because you shouldn't be.
I personally wouldn't go for him, because that would feel the same on her as it would on you.
good luck!
2007-12-23 12:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋