Me and my bf have been together almost 2 years now. We have 2 children (because we had them so close together) and now all we do is argue. He's a great guy and doesn't cheat, but hes unemployed going to school, while i feel like i do mostley everything around the house. Is it normal to cry every single day from this? How do i approach him on everything just right? I've already tried and it causes more arguements....this is a never ending battle. What should i do?
2007-12-23 10:33:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you think men also can become so numb to womens crying? Now, i think hes used to it and shuts me out. When he cries, im there in an instant. When i cry, he totally shuts me out.
2007-12-23 10:38:32 · update #1
Also, yes ive talked to him. He hasnt done a thing, and when i mention it, he gets mad and we start the whole arguing thing over again. Yeah, im trying to clean when i can, i do his laundry, I 90% take care of the kids. I have to force him now to change a diaper. With out first, he was totally loving being a daddy, now with our second infant (infant now) he doesnt want any part of it it seems...
2007-12-23 10:40:54 · update #2
well do you think he could handle getting a part time job. or maybe you could talk to him about helping out around the hou its a very hard thing to go house more often? i truly feel for you its a very hard thing to go through best wishes. merry christmas
2007-12-23 10:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you both have too much responsibility too soon in the relationship. You never really had time to get to know each other and now you have two kids. That makes it hard, but it is something you both have to face and deal with. The trouble is most young people don't know how much work it takes to keep a relationship going. If you are crying every day it may be that you have postpartum depression, so talk to your doctor about that. Make an appointment with your bf (yes an appointment) and tell him you both need to figure out how to make things work. Don't phrase the discussion with accusations about what he is or isn't doing, do it from the point of view of "how can I ....". Good luck
2007-12-23 18:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My impression is that baby #2 (and maybe #1 as well) was a "mistake". Your boyfriend is bitter about how his life is turning out. He doesn't even know you that well and now he has two children with you. The arguments and fights are probably a sign of incompatibility and stress. The two of you can't say the truth to each other because of the stakes involved, so you argue about everything else.
I think a couples counselor is needed to arbitrate the disputes.
2007-12-23 19:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best if you get a counselor and work things out before it's too late.. I mean, you cry every night and that's not normal at all.
2007-12-23 18:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶ Gatorade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try couples counseling. Or getting a sitter one night and just going to dinner and having a "heart to heart" and telling him how you feel.
2007-12-23 18:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by SMILES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋