My mom is shouting at my dad unnecessarily and they don't usually argue but she has gotten really angry at really pointless things. What can I do?
2007-12-23 10:26:27 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I want to talk to you from the angry mother's point of view. I used to be married. My husband and I fought and shouted. We had two children and I cry sometimes wondering what damage we have done to our daughters. I have regrets. I hope something that I say will help you in your situation. Your mom will have regrets also if she doesn't find help--she needs to talk out whatever is bothering her with a licensed counselor. This isn't about you. I am SO sorry that you have to listen to them argue, but it IS NOT about you. I don't know why your mother is angry. I don't know what they are fighting about and I know it breaks your heart. But try to have some empathy for them. Something has caused a rift in their relationship. How old are you? Are you old enough for you to begin trying to gain respect from your parents? DO NOT approach them out of anger. But go to them and assertively let them know that it's hurting you. Remind them this kind of behaviour can damage a child for life. Let them know that it leaves you feeling helpless and scared. Open up and be very honest. Keep your tone of voice calm. You don't want to set off another argument. Maybe they will grow up and see that they need to calm down. Not everything is worth losing your family over. I wish one of my kids could have said something to me like this. It really would have been a wake up call. Their father and I might still be together. We might have stopped fighting. Who knows. I might never know. But you have a chance to try this. It might work. I PRAY that it does. Don't assume what is on your mother's mind is unnecessary. You don't know all of their personal business. Try NOT to take sides. Ask them to go for counseling if it comes to that. I wish you well and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-23 10:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by getusedtoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is very little you can do. You might try talking to your mom on a day when she seems in a good mood. It depends on how you bring up the topic though. You might just say that you have heard her shouting and wonder if you could do anything to make life easier and less stressful for her. Sometimes parents don't realize how their personal marital difficulties effect the kids. That may be enough to make her think.
2007-12-23 10:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just zone them out. Can you get out of the house? Go hang out with some friends. More than likely when you get back, they will be done arguing. Oh and while you are out get them a gift or something nice. LIke a card that says, you are the perfect couple or something like that. It will make them feel bad that they were fighting and more than likely they will stop.
2007-12-23 10:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by I♥Reba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is only your Mom that is starting these arguments, sit down with her and ask her quietly, when your Dad is not around, what is wrong. Tell her Mom, I love you and Dad and I hate to see you arguing. What is wrong? She may or may not answer you, but you tried. If she says it is between your Dad and me, just tell her it effects you too, and you need to know. Just don't push her too much. If this does not work, just leave when they argue. Good luck.
2007-12-23 10:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kukla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They argued plenty whilst I was once little (approximately 5 - 6). My mother, brother, and I might opt for a stroll approximately a mile away, then flip round and are available residence. To these days, I hate to argue. My ex-spouse was once very argumentative and might insist that I NOT stroll away (her moms and dads might battle for hours!)
2016-09-05 14:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by odden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to music (withe headphones) and go into your room. ignore them. thats the best thing to do. or you could do what i did last time my mom and dad got in a fight (i was studying for finals and i was really pised off btw) i went in and told them both to shut the f#$k up. but i dont recommend that, i ended up grounded yet again.
2007-12-23 10:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your parents and let them know how you feel. Normally after that they stop making it so open and loud. It might make you feel better too.
2007-12-23 10:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Maren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your family needs to sit down and talk to each other more and ask her what's is going on? Maybe shes going through mid life crisis.
2007-12-23 10:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by PANGTA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if she turns and sees you standing there with a video recorder and you saying "Mom don't stop, this will be great for YouTube" she'll shut up.
2007-12-23 10:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by Rock 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just stay out of it i go through this to long as your dad dont put his hands on her let them vent and get things off their chest
2007-12-23 10:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋