My uncle(who is 5 years older than me) lives in another country than me. Everytime my family visits his family, we have to end up picking on each other at least by the end of the week long vacation. Last year, I promised myself I would get on better relations with him, but he made a joke about me and then I had to fight back. I'm pretty sure we're both joking when we "fight" ,it's like a hate-love relationship in a way, but I just want to be normal friends with him -maybe even little jokes now and then about each other. Something always triggers it though, and we end up being "enemies",pulling pranks on eachother. How do I fix this without confronting him about it? Please help. I really want to be nicer to him. : /
2007-12-23 10:24:02 · 4 answers · asked by pepperland 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The first thing you need to do is align your perceptions...he may like them and consider your "fights" the normal way you two bond, so when you abruptly stop, he may think something is wrong. So, if you decide to take a new approach, make sure you let him know ahead of time or he will likely wind up trying to bait you into an argument. Good luck, and enjoy your holidays.
2007-12-23 10:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don’t want to confront him but it is going to be hard if your the ONLY one trying to improve the relationship between the two of you. He also has to make an effort to get along and be nicer too. Your uncle might not even know that all of this is really bothering you. If you can’t talk to him about this directly, then you should definitely e-mail or give him a call.
I don’t think anyone can be nice to someone who is making mean jokes. It take two people to make a relationship work out.
I hope that helps :)
2007-12-23 10:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by SockGal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey good luck i have the same problem in our family the easiest way to solve the love hate problem keep your visits SHORT we used to do 4 day visits always ended in a brawl no we visit for 2 days and leave now we actually look forward to seeing each other the problem is your together for to long a period
2007-12-23 10:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by big nickel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he started , tell him go ahead keep going,, im not in the mood.. u cant be normal to me, then i wont deal with you.. sure he wil feel different and approach you..
2007-12-23 10:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by cover girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋