They've always made fun of me for being too sensitive. It's gotten to the point where whenever I hear them walking towards me or they just knock on the door and start talking my heart starts beating faster because their manner of speaking is so frazzling. They've always been loud, stomped when cats got in their way, bossed me around because I'm the baby of the family. I really don't know how to tell them about they make me feel though. I've already asked them to maybe talk quieter but that wasn't effective because everyone else in my family is the same so it doesn't faze them.
Any thoughts on what I can do please?
2007-12-23 10:20:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure they love you :)
So just honestly let them know how you feel.
Show them that it upsets you. Show the whole family and i'm sure they'll at least make an effort to change.
If they don't take it on board, act disappointed not to guilt them just so they know they've upset you.
Like don't speak to them and if they speak to you answer in a short sentence (maybe in a downbeat manner)
When they see how you feel re-raise the issue and see if they'll change :)
All the Best
2007-12-23 10:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are correct. You're too darn sensitive. Since they have to "knock on the door" I will assume you are an adult living by yourself.
You ever heard of the phrase: you're an easy target? Well you are. You need to STAND your ground. Be a VOLCANO once and they will stop picking on you and treat you with more respect. Let me give you a scenario/skid to play on them.
Next time you hear them coming. Wait for the knock on the door. Then, don't open the door right away. When they knock twice or three times then approach the door and speak loudly BEFORE you open the door. LEAVE YOUR ATTITUDES OUTSIDE or I AM NOT OPENING THIS DOOR. HEAR ME? If they don't acknowledge your request. Don't open the door. Repeat it one last time. Again, no answer. Don't open the door. That's Standing your ground. If they get upset and leave, you don't need them anyway. I assure you they will get over it and next time they come over they will be nice and show you respect. If they don't well I guess you'll be spending much of your life without your siblings.
Mine would call after wards and ask "May I come over?" and I would answer "Only if you will treat me like your brother and show me respect.". Most don't visit much anymore but I've learned to deal with it. I figured if they want a punching bag or a whipping boy they're on sale at Joske's or Wal-Mart. There!
2007-12-23 18:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should not be your battle. You should talk to your parents and explain to them how it makes you feel. It is the parents' responsibility to control the behavior and the function of the family.
While it is easy to say to not show your true colors to your siblings, I know it can be hard. Try to hide how much it frazzles you because it will only make them want to do it more. That's the whole point of being annoying and teasing.
Communication is key to any problem.
2007-12-23 18:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by techman2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hyper sensitive to noises. My adult sister's house is the same way... chaotic, loud, and it really makes me upset, like you. It's not even that it's your siblings causing the ruckus... it's the ruckus itself.
Just hang back as much as possible and soon you'll be able to get your own place and spend more time in places that inspire you.
I took a lot of bike rides when I was young.
2007-12-23 18:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by lazykins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can't change these things b/c it's based on their personality. The only way to fix ur status is to become as loud as it is necessary to communicate with them. When u've gained their approval, tell them to become a little less louder. Don't let this affect ur sensitive personality though. Good luck!
2007-12-23 18:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by pepperland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouchh, this hurts but there is really no way out until you have to live with your family because you are young.... when you are elder and you can move out of home, this problem will no longer exist, until then, I don't know, perhaps try to avoid them? this is a very difficult and stresful situation, I had similar problem (with parents not with siblings) when I was a teenager. Good luck!
2007-12-23 18:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by all means they want to upset you. Don't let them win. Ignorance is bliss. Don't try biting the dog back. Do your duties and keep quiet. If they have minds that can think they will let you be in peace. Else they aren't worthy enough for you to fight "one to one". So just sit back and witness all that they do without relating it to you personally. Soon you'll start enjoying their show or you'll turn happy that they realized their defeat.
2007-12-23 18:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by associate001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody sees their own flaws. When another person points them out it tends to come as shock or maybe as something that isn't such a big deal. It's best not to try to point it out. People find changing to be a big deal.
2007-12-23 18:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by wachdapurtyfireburnya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
=] im the baby to i kno how it is i love silents but in order to get a little peace of mind you gotta be a little louder then everyone and i'm the only GIRL with 5 brothers 25, 22, 20,19, 17, and me so it takes alot to over power them. tryy having alot of friends over and loud music take up the saxaphone and listen to Good Charlotte thats what i did and now i get silents when ever i please =]]]]]]]
2007-12-23 18:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Brianna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand your ground.
However, my Dad is half deaf, so despite that my sisters claim that I am too loud (I have a strong projecting voice), I still have to interpret for them.
You should also toughen up and find witty replies to counter their demands.
"But my fridge want you to get the beer,---he's got a crush on you."
2007-12-23 18:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋