A guy I work with has been doing a few things lately - he’s in a much higher position, but we work closely together b/c it’s a small company.
He always stares at me when I walk by his office, or when we walk by each other; he has tried to run into me in the file room so that we almost bumped into each other; he has pressed the side of his body against mine when we were leaning over a table to get food (although there was plenty of space); he has completely stopped talking to other people when I walked by, started staring and cut off his conversation.
The other night, everybody was out for drinks and he kept looking at me from a distance; when he sat next to us, he would try to hold my gaze for a really long time, and really staring into my eyes; I dropped my gaze, looked back up at him, and he was still staring and smiling (and this was with MY boss sitting between us!). He also made comments about how “innocent and sweet” I was, and when he left, he went around my boss and touched my arm for quite a bit when he said goodbye…
He is also married. Is this intense flirting, or is he just playing a game to boost his ego (I’m 10 years younger, in my 20s)?
2007-12-23 09:18:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This was cute until you said he was married. Keep your distance from this one. He's a sneak and a cheater. You don't want any part of this. Make a point to never be alone with him.
2007-12-23 09:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by oldernwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is getting very close to sexual harassment, especially if he is touching you. He is your superior so he knows better and you are being put in an awkward position. Find out what the harassment policy is in your office, make a copy and highlight appropriate points, leave it on his desk anonymously. Be business-like, stay away from him as much as possible, and document every incident including time and location and any witnesses who noticed what he was doing, plus your response to him. If he touches you, move away. If you catch him looking at you, move away and don't look back. If the cold shoulder doesn't work, go to a superior.
2007-12-23 17:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say report him honey. He is the type of person who is a user. You are the person on his list to use. You wouldn't want your husband flirting like that with another worker would you? either tell your boss or tell his wife
2007-12-23 17:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Abby-drya 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it "innocent" since he is married. I suggest when you see him staring at you, you give him a dirty look and turn away, so he knows you don't appreciate the advances.
2007-12-23 17:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is playing a game to boost his ego. He also wants to f*** you.
2007-12-23 17:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋