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I did write her an email, but she didn't even bother to truly look at it. Again, she leaves me feeling that I can't do anything good. What do you think of her response? What can I do to stop this?
wrote: Mom, I'm sorry you are angry with me.
I don't know how many times I can apologize. Even the doctor said it was better to come in rather than to not and let something be broken or whatnot.
I have done the very best I can. I've gone out of my way to take JJ to his physical therapy against my husband saying gas is expensive. I did it out of love for my mother and my brother. The kids spend time with you. Cherana doesn't even let her mother or father spend time with her kids. I gave up a cell phone and have another one if you need it. I'm giving up my PS2 to JJ since I don't need it and I know it will make him feel better.
2007-12-23 08:08:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why are you angry with me for one mistake? Why didn't you look at all of the other positive stuff I have done? I'm not Melissa. When you do something for me, I'm grateful. When I have money, I try to treat others instead of keeping it to myself.
I don't know why you feel this way towards me. I just know that I'm tired. I've been trying, and you still angry with me for what happened days ago, and it not being my fault, tells me that you only love me when I do what you want. It makes me feel like no matter what I do, it's not good enough and will be forgotten the moment I show myself to be a human and make mistakes.
Again, I'm sorry. How many more times do I have to say it?
Here is her response:
i said i wasnt angry, did you listen? i really dont appreciate emails telling me off when i dont do something you want either
2007-12-23 08:09:45 · update #1
Queen,
I never email my parents. Spending time in front of a person is much more personal then sending an email. The computer is no way to have a personal communication with people at all. Get in front of her and talk to her. Either that or take some time apart and don't speak with one another at all. I believe that the second is NOT a GOOD IDEA! Have a great Christmas.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-12-23 08:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop beating yourself up over this. If your brother is under 18 your mother is responsible for him getting where he needs to go. You can help but in the end it is her job. You are not his mother and you have your immediate family to take care of. Continue to do your best in helping your mother but if you can't sometimes relax and realize you have done the best you can. Now since she has said she is not mad at you give it a rest and take her word for it and don't talk about it any more it is like beating a dead horse. She may not be sincere when she says it but it is time to move on.
hope this helps you it is my opinion I live next door to my parents and have given my whole life to take care of them it is a very difficult life to choose and sometimes I can't be there so I have to tell my self that I have given 100% to help them.
2007-12-23 08:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to start taking care of your brother like her responsibilities. Let him know you love him but he needs to work his stuff out with her and to just leave you out of the petty bickering and this means you just drop it and move on with your life. You'll all get over it if you stop picking on it and just make her step up to the plate and tell her you've got your own problems to worry about.
2007-12-23 08:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep at it! Sometimes it takes a life time to get through to some people. Continue to serve her, and each day make a conscious effort to show her your love for her. Beyond what her reaction is, love never fails, and it will likely be at the point which you least expect it that you will see the fruit of your labours!
Keep at it!
2007-12-23 08:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-24 21:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I know this is hard...I've been in that situation, but you have to just let this go. She obviously isn't will to admit to anything. You are achieving about as much as you would hitting your head on a brick wall. As far as she's concerned, she's right and that's all there is to it.
As long as she's in that frame of mind, she will not listen to you. You'll just have to wait until she changes or is in a more receptive frame of mind.
(((((Hugs)))))
2007-12-23 17:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she will not talk to you and has no respect for you as a person then she does not deserve any either. Light a white candle for peace and burn it for 20 minutes imaging peace everyday. Blessed Be.
2007-12-23 20:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by kymm r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I said, leave her be. She is going to make you physically sick if you let her. Raise your kids, love your husband and let her deal with her own issues. In time, she may come to you. At 44, she is very immature.
2007-12-23 08:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by wiccanhpp 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why this is in R&S but my advice is to remember that you cannot control the actions of others. The only thing you can control is your own reaction to them.
She will do as she pleases. It is up to you to control how you react to her. If she becomes toxic, simply distance yourself.
2007-12-23 08:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by t_rex_is_mad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety.. it is ok to not expect your mom to understand how she affects you. she might not be ready to understand. it will be ok. when things like this happen..you have to learn to breathe a new way..think a new way..and see past the turmoil some parents set theimselves and their children to go through.
Stop trying to please her..and work harder at pleasing God..ok? Much easier that way.
2007-12-23 08:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by juliette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋