My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, but he recently told me that he's been sleeping with his ex, and he keeps debating whether or not he should stay with me or go back to her. This boy is amazing, and I keep forgiving him when he tells me about his cheating. Honestly, I don't know what to do. He's perfect, but he keeps changing his mind, putting me on an emotional roller coaster that I could do without, but I think he's 100% worth every bit. In the past, he's told me about how much was wrong with his ex, but when she finds out that he's with me, she comes back and steals him away.
I'm really confused! What do I do?
2007-12-23 07:56:09 · 22 answers · asked by Lydia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes not perfect if he is cheating let him go before he destroys you and breaks your heart
2007-12-23 08:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Shaz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lady, your boyfriend is not "perfect" if he's ambivalent about being with you, and you don't have a great relationship if he keeps cheating on you. You think he's worth 100% of the grief you're experiencing; I respectfully disagree.
You're already sharing a guy, so you have nothing to lose really if you just bowed out of the picture altogether. That's a scary and vulnerable step to take, I know...but a quality guy won't cross those lines, so as long as you're involved with this guy, he's a barrier between you and another guy who would treat you much better. It's a leap of faith to let him go, but instead of betting on this guy, gamble on yourself. Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-23 16:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, you keep letting him cheat and he knows he can get away with it so he does keep doing it. You shouldn't have to deal with that much of an emotional roller coaster in a relationship.
2007-12-23 16:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, think about what you're saying... "He's perfect..." If he was perfect, he wouldn't be cheating on you.
Do you really want someone that doesn't know for sure that you're the one they want to be with? I don't know about you, but I NEVER want to be someone's second choice. And that's all you are to him right now.
Let him go back to his ex, and then forget about him. Find yourself a guy who will treat you right and not question whether or not he likes you. You deserve so much more than this jerk.
2007-12-23 16:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Britt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
He keeps cheating on you and you find him amazing! Wow! You are amazing! I wish you were my girlfriend, so that I could cheat on you and get away with it - just kidding. Dump him.
If he cannot make up his mind, then probably he needs external help. And that help would be from you. You will help him make up his mind that he needs to go back to his ex.
2007-12-23 16:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him once and for all immediately. He's not worth any of your time if he keeps going back to his ex. You don't deserve this kind of crap from your bf. Move on, it's going to be the best for you! Good Luck!
2007-12-23 16:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by =P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all....there is no one perfect in this world, and if this guy appears perfect, it means he is the worst of them all. the best thing you can do is tell him you'll make his decision more simple.....and dump his sorry butt. there is nothing to be so confused about...you are letting him string you along. don't put up with that, because you deserve so much better.
2007-12-23 16:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh...hello?! How perfect can he be if he's cheating on you?
Dump him.
He's not amazing, but you are for putting up with that. Oy.
Pity you don't think you're worth the respect of monogamy...
2007-12-23 15:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the kerb! no one needs to go thru that. i dont think he is worth it if he keeps doing this to you. btw, no one is perfect, everyone has flaws. if he was committed to you 100%, he wouldnt be cheating on you. and how many times has he done it? i wouldve kicked him to the kerb by now if he has cheated more than 2 times.
2007-12-23 16:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen DO NOT STAY WITH HIM of course you think hes perfect, hes you boyfriend, but in actuallity HES NOT PERFECT nobody is and if he doesnt know who he wants to be with you need to GIVE HIM TIME TO FIGURE IT OUT and in a month if he really wants to be with you than do what you want
2007-12-23 16:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋