my youngest son will be turning 2 yrs old on 1-1...I also have a 3 yr.old..what are some ideas that I can try...so my 3 yr old doesn't feel left out..my family said buy them equal amount of gifts...But it's not my 3 yr old B-day..we are taking my kids and a few other kids to a place called Discovery Zone...it has lots of fun things for kids to do..and having the cake etc at this place..but what about the gift idea? I feel stuck because at 3 does he really understand that it's not his b-day...ohhh pls help :)
2007-12-23 07:54:56 · 14 answers · asked by ~Jenny~ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
you guys have some great ideas...anyone know why my question ended up on here 2x's...when I only asked it 1 time
2007-12-23 08:19:45 · update #1
Maybe try and help your three year old make a gift for the 2 year old. That way your 3yr old will look forward to the 2yr old opening the homemade gift. Now would be the perfect time to begin teaching them that you only get presents on your own birthday but it is just as rewarding to give to others. But I would sugest giving a small toy as a reward for being so well behaved during the party and gift opening as well.
2007-12-23 08:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by TLS (Caitlin is coming! 5/15/08) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relax my dear! I The 3 yr old will be too excited with the activities . He will have no time to bother about gifts. Anyway, I still think that to prepare him before hand is a good idea. Tell him that you love him as much as you love his brother. Ask him to help you plan the brother's b-day celebration, let him help to choose a present that he thinks the brother will like(just like what he did when he was 2- keep reminding him that he is big brother and will celebrate his b-day soon)
Please do not buy equal amount of gifts, he needs to understand and accept the fact that it is not his b-day.( I've seen children crying in b-day party wanting to blow someone else candles....) As a pre-school teacher, my advise is to let children learn to respect others.
To all Mummies,
Never ever thinks that your child is too young to understand.
Trust your child!
2007-12-23 16:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Just Mee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not by a gift for the 3 yr old as it is not b-day. You will set a precedence that any time the 2 yr old gets something the 3 yr old will then get something also. Explain that when it is his of her birthday they will also get stuff. Count down the calender. Be patient he or she might still get mad, but what you do now will set for rest and will be harder to break when older.
2007-12-23 16:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by M&M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have three kids and we make it clear to them whose birthday it is. Each child needs there own special day. I would most certainly not buy equal gifts for each kid because it takes away the emphasis from the birthday child. I let the other kids help decorate the dining room and the cake and I let them wrap the presents. If there is birthday money to spend at Toys R Us
or wherever, I let the other kids take some money from their piggy banks to spend, too.
2007-12-23 16:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by North 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 16 mos older than my brother and when I was young my parents would give us one smaller gift on the others birthday. We didn't feek left out because we got to open a gift. You could also try to involve your 3 year old in the planning and the party. Asking them to help you do things that he/she id able to do at 3.
2007-12-23 15:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by tuckerlucydog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that it is the little one's special day and that he will play an important part in helping to celebrate. Then make sure he knows HIS birthday is his special day .
There is no reason to buy him gifts too and it really sets a bad precedent.
Just don't make any mention of gifts and if he asks why he didn't get any remind him it's his brother's day. If you're matter of fact about it, it will be fine.
2007-12-23 16:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your other child excited about the 2 year olds upcoming birthday. Show them the joy of making someone else feel special. Don't raise your kids so that they feel they DESERVE attention for no other reason than someone else is getting some.
They will have their day, and you do the same thing for them, get your other child into the party, and planning, and making/getting a gift for the sibling. Include them, but not by rewarding them with gifts becuase you feel bad.
2007-12-23 15:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by ihti 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your 3 yr old won't understand just yet, so buy a smaller gift for that one so there isn't a fight over the toys or gifts.
2007-12-23 16:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by ctknight9 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe give him a goody bag and a big peice of cake. Fill the goody bag with little tinker toys or something that can fit about 6 small different things
2007-12-23 15:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so the one kid needs to learn that his bday isn't that particular day, and that he shouldn't get gifts on his brothers bday. the other son needs to feel speacil because he was born that particular day, so he gets gifts. make sure your other son knows he will get gifts on his birthday, but that that's not today. and make your younger son feel speacil on his birthday. :)
2007-12-23 15:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Cole 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋