How do I tell one of my best guy friends that I like him? He got out of a messy break up about a month ago, but they only went out for 4 days, but long story short his gf slept with his best friend. Anyways I know that he likes me he told my best friend he did, and we flirt all of the time and he is all over me, but I am shy and I don't have the courage to make the first move, but I know that I have to, or something might never happen because he is leaving in five months. I just don't know if I should wait on him or do I tell him, and how I tell him if I do. PLEASE HELP ME I am having a nervous break down...
2007-12-23 07:22:31 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK I AM NOT A GUY!!!!!!! THE GUY IN THE PICTURE IS GERARD BUTLER HE IS A MOVIE STAR!!!! GOD KNOW YOUR CELEBRITIES!!!!!!
2007-12-23 07:41:36 · update #1
He told my best friend that in september he started going out with "her" in the last days of November. But We have been flirting since August, and him and "her" have known each other for four years. He is graduating wich is why he is leaving in 5 months, and we will still hang out, but it won't be like everyday like it is now.
2007-12-23 07:48:15 · update #2
tell him
2007-12-23 07:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I understand your feelings and urgency. But dont you think you need caution now?
See, you were always in front of him. Still he went and had a relation with anotherbgirl who cheated him. They broke up one moth ago. Then he told your best friend that he likes you. You and he flirt all the time and he is all over you in this one month. And now he plans to leave for somewhere in 5 months. And you feel you should find a way to tell him your feelings. But one question. Does he really love you? Or is it just a reaction from his breakup or perhaps a temporary fling for him?
Just be careful. You were always in front of him because you said he is one of your best guy friends. He did not have these feelings for you earlier. So, this current rush of his feelings cannot be for the person you are, while you, by all chances have feelings for him. But do you think he will take care of your feelings? I doubt.
Take care.. All the best..
Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year to You..
2007-12-23 07:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him this question! Tell him you have a little crush on a really nice guy but, don't know what to say or do! If he likes you back he'll try to find out if it's him and it will be easy to blush and say yes! Good luck! He's in a tender spot so be nice but, not too nice! He may want to be getting even and sleeping with someone who just came out of that mess isn't wise-wait a long time and if it's good then think about it again! Revenge sex ends up being vengeful on you!
2007-12-23 07:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by helprhome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's all you do is flirt with each other constantly then you HAVE to make the first move. Don't take the break-up too hard, IT WAS ONLY 4 DAYS!!! It might not have meant anything to him.
About how to tell him you like him. I have no clue what to do, but u can try and get your friend to tell him that you like him and he might feel better about stepping up.
2007-12-23 07:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by aquarius7air 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather have a nervous breakdown or would you rather get up the courage to just call him and tell him how you feel? Its an easy choice as far as I'm concerned.
I loved that 'messy breakup but they only went out for four days." What exactly "broke up?" It sounds to me like some wench came in, did him, then did his friend and then left to let those two to yell at each other. LOL...omg...I remember those days.
2007-12-23 07:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in the same position only I"m the one who had a crappy break up and now I really want to tell him but I'm scared he might not actually like me like I thought he might....So I'm kind of waiting for him...Anything he says would be good..so long as it happens before he leaves....But I guess you should just spit it out. I mean...there really is no wrong way except to do it...and right now you dont have time to worry about specifics...
2007-12-23 07:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummm, well, you sounds kind of young. He's leaving in 5 months? So are you setting yourself up for heartache when he's gone? In 5 months you can barely begin to know someone. Is it flattery you're looking for? Feeling special cause he likes you and then there's no committment cause he's gone? Better stop for a minute and try to figure out what you hope to gain from this before doing anything.
2007-12-23 07:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he discovered what she's really like early in the relationship, but try not to push the issue. You can make the first move by asking him to go to a movie with you, if you don't mind taking a chance that he might refuse.
2007-12-23 07:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your courage together, call him up, and just say "Look, I need to say this so just listen and don't interrupt. I like you a lot. Will you go out with me? Think about it. Call me back and tell me your answer. If you don't want to go out, that's fine, I still value your friendship and want to keep you as a friend. Bye."
then hang up, go run around the house three times to get rid of nervous energy, and wait for him to call you back. good luck! :)
2007-12-23 07:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. If he hasn't made the first move by now, he's feeling the same way. I'd say take it slow. Maybe say something blunt and easy to smash the ice. Such as. While you're talking, randomly interrupt him and say "so why haven't you kissed me". One of my old girlfriends did this too me, and it pretty much shattered the ice. Be firm *it's sexy*. Good luck!
2007-12-23 07:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings, I would just say something like "I know you are going away in a few months and before you leave I wanted you to know that I really care about you and I'd like for us to spend time together". Maybe even write him a letter or card to express it.
2007-12-23 07:27:33 · answer #11 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋