my bf left me for another gurl, i feel soo bad, and i am so mad at him, cause i expect him to apologize to me and come back but he doesnt seem to care, do guys usually come back after leaving their gurls?, this my first bf even though am 20, i have never hurt him or done anything bad to him, will he come back?
2007-12-23 07:21:01 · 37 answers · asked by shatha f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all if he tries to come back, don't take him because you'll just end up looking like a chump and he didn't think twice about hurting you so if he does it agsin ( and he probably will) it'll be worse, the chick that he left you for is probably instant gratification guys do this all the time and as soon as realizes the stupid mistake he's made he'll want to come back, I say leave the suckers for the suckers, she's a chump because she couldn't even find her own man she had to steal someone elses you'll find someone that will treat you right,but what's the rush? you're only 20 get out and enjoy life girl! the men will come, they always do, and when you do find him he'll be the regreting it. Stay up =D
2007-12-23 07:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, sweetheart... is this the first time for a boyfriend to leave you? I can't imagine that you are 20 and have never been "dumped" before.
Young people can be very finicky....it is how people meet their "real soulmate". The person they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Many guys will tell a girl what she wants to hear and they become very good at treating a girl the way they figure she wants to be treated in order to "get what they want" namely, sex. Let's face it. Generally, if they get what they want, why commit to the girl? Not only that, but soon they become tired and will move on because the only thing they really wanted was sex anyway. Always remember, sex is not love. Never was and never will be. It just "feels good" until one of you decides it doesn't feel so good anymore.
No, you didn't do anything to him and I'm not a fortune teller, but I doubt he will return to you. If he does, I hope you are a little more careful about letting him back into your heart unless you are a sucker to get hurt again. Take your time before you lend your heart to a guy or your body for that matter.
Move on. There's more "fish in the pond" my mama used to say.
Good luck!!
2007-12-23 07:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Registered Nurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to feel better be happier and make more money than he does! My mother's best advice and it's true. Don't let him see you moping around and at some point you will know whether you really wanted him back but, not until you get far enough away to know that he shouldn't have hurt you ever! If he does that garbage now. imagine how that would have felt if you had two kids to try to feed and he left! Girl you have been blessed to have him gone before that happened! Guys do regret it and sometimes come back then you need to be in the strongest frame of mind to be able to say yes I'm strong enough to have him back the jerk! or no way I'm better than that and no one treats ME that way-let him go hurt someone else! Then watch how you feel when you tell him to move along! Powerful WOMAN! Whoo hoo! Sometimes we need to MAKE our men! into men!
2007-12-23 07:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by helprhome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want someone that hurt you? Doesn't make sense, especially in a Love and War game. He's spilled milk, wash your hands, shoulders back, chin up and step forward like the champion that you are. There's more guys out there who want to be loved by you.
O.K. let me hurt you just a bit more but you need it to understand the pains of "love".
Love is never fair, period. However one has to love like we are never going to be hurt because out there is Mr. Right waiting and watching you. If you shatter easily like a piece of glass when a pebble hits your pane that shows weakness. If you crack when a larger pebble hits your pane but don't break, that shows strength. If an even larger pebble bounces off of your emotions like a ball bouncing off something, that shows resilency. That's what guys want in a girl. Resilency.
Life is too fragile and guys don't like a girl that falls to pieces everytime something doesn't go their way.
We guys are also weak and need a strong woman that we can rely on during good times and rough times. Otherwise why should we even get married? My woman is strong and resilent. God knows we have been through some rough water rapids in our 42 years of marriage but her strength has helped us pull through. When one was weak the other one was strong. When one wanted to just quit and throw the towel in, the other one grabed the towel and said "one more time".
So be strong. Be resilent. There's other fish in the sea. Try several. The next one will stay longer. If that one leaves too, well keep fishing. Show your strength. Yeah you can cry. That's O.K. Just don't "break down and fall to pieces" over ANY guy. It's not like he's the only one in this world.
My wife and I dated many before we found each other. Yes we both had our hearts broken several times before we met but we never stopped loving. Then one day we met and here we are 42 years later still laughing together, crying together and smiling when we think about all the guys and gals we went through to get here.
Cheer up. Life is a fish market and there's more fish to be had.
2007-12-23 07:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find that people, both men and women (I can tell you from experience) can be that way. Would you really want him back if he finds it that easy to run off with another girl? I know, as a guy, if I really cared about the girl, I would probably want her back, but I'd have to think about if it would be worth it....which is what you'd probably have to do.
Just remember that trust and communication are key foundations of a healthy relationship.
2007-12-23 08:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Phienyxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably too embarrassed and afraid of hurting your feelings more if he talks to you. Sorry about it - I know that hurts a lot (been on both sides).
Best luck, cry for a couple days, and get back on that horse and find a boyfriend! You will find one much better than him.
PS: If he hurt you one time he'll do it again. Don't accept him if he comes back. If he liked you he woulnd't do that. Otherwise he's just trying to make a "booty call" because he thinks he can get away with it.
2007-12-23 07:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i feel so bad for you. i think that you sshould make him jealous. dont waste time crying over him man i am 13 and am always sad cause the boy i like it is going out with this girl till my bff told me dont waste ur time. i know it is dumb because i am only 13 but belive me boys are a waste of time. just find a golden one tell him that you love him ever day but not too soon. dont be pushy i know that this is a little harsh but that may be why. watch how to loose a guy in 10 days then you will know how to act. finish school before u get married to. Happy Holidays!!!
2007-12-23 07:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by jujubug11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had alot of boyfriends and after leaving me not one has said sorry and being a typical guy he probably wont come back. what you need to do is have a makeover to make you feel better and "Accidentally" bump into him and show your over him and don't care. and that him leaving you is the best thing that could have happened to you. Hope that i helped.
2007-12-23 07:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if broke up with you for a different girl why would u want him back he isnt worth it because if he does it noe he is going to do it again i think that u should make him feel like he doesnt mean anything to u and that u are way better without him
and he will probley come back to u when the other girl breaks up wit him...
2007-12-23 07:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by MoSho_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I guess that's first love .But tell me is he still worth it after he left you for another girl ...good it happened early even you find a Nice Guy and even if this guy comes back say sorry.
2007-12-23 07:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by funman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋