So if a relative dies and you remember how bad this relative was. You remember how much they abused you as a child and how they planned to make your family suffer. Would you attend their funeral? Would it be wrong not to attend a bad relatives' funeral? What do you think?
Thanks
2007-12-23 07:17:15 · 17 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That first part "you remembered how bad they abused you as a child" maybe is not ok, but the later part "how they planned to make your family suffer" would be a total no for me.
according to our tradition you didn't break any filial piety rules, for doing that. as a matter fact if you don't go, that's the right thing. This came straight out of Confucius: "if a person has been a respectable person when he was alive, you can see how many attends his funeral after he dies..."
well i find that true.
2007-12-23 21:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go to any funeral ..ever...if you don't want to. The only ones that will be affected are the rest of your family, so think how they will feel...your dead "bad" relative won't even know you are getting revenge by not going.
2007-12-23 07:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying it is wrong is making a judgment call on you. I won't do that. This is the last time you can pay your respect to the deceased relative. Be the bigger person and do what is right for your family.
2007-12-23 18:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous poster.
I went to the funeral of a man who molested my younger sister for years. I hated him and to be really honest I was super happy he died. Anyways I went to the funeral - I did not mourn for him but went to respect my aunt and show support to my relatives.
Ultimately you never have to do anything you don't want to...
It is not wrong but if you have family you think will need your love and support perhaps it is a time to think of them and what you can do to help them.
2007-12-23 10:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong. If this relative abused you, then you should feel no obligation to go. It would not make you or anyone else feel better. It would probably just bring back bad memories.
2007-12-23 07:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter what they were ur relatives.Why not learn to 4give them.They already paid with their death.Show some respect otherwise your gona end up looking bad.Uust go besides this relative is dead you wont need to hear them.
2007-12-25 10:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't go to funerals for the dead you go for the living, so ask yourself do you feel that way toward his wife and kids
2007-12-23 07:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....ppl attend funerals to pay their last respects n to say a final goodbye....but if u dont even like the person then it wud be better if u do not go......
2007-12-23 07:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sahithya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should attend the funeral, and release its soul.so it can rest in peace.
2007-12-23 07:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by blumax987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't feel like you should go and tis relative was really bad to you then it's not wrong to feel how you do
2007-12-23 07:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sian T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋