Is it a good idea to start up a (good) past relationship after 6 years?

Question

Alright, way back when I was in 10th grade, I had a relationship with a girl, which ended simply because the year had finished for the summer (stupid, I know). Nothing bad happened between us whatsoever, as it was a very innocent first relationship for both of us, however throughout the last two years of school, we'd occasionally flirt, but left it at nothing more than that.

Last week, I ran into her, and all of a sudden all the feelings I had for her came back. It was obvious that we both we're flirting with each other throughout the entire conversation, and I was going to attempt to see if I could sit down and talk with her about the past. But there's a slight problem: she's moving to Scotland for the next university semester... and I said I would come visit her (which, I will).

Am I crazy to think that there's a possibility for me to start something with her once again, or am I reading into what may be nothing more than harmless flirting, way too deep? Is a second shot possible?

Answer 1

Sweetheart, she's moving out of the country. Unless you plan to move too, it would seem any relationship other than friendship (which is a treasure above all others) would be impossible. I've been in long distance relationships to two men to whom I was engaged to (not at the same time lol) but when they had to move out of state it all fell apart. We both tried to keep it going because we loved each other dearly and had been deeply involved for over 3 years. I couldn't go with him as I was caring for my very ill mother, and so life went on. A year after he moved to the Pentegon, I took a vacation and went to see him in D.C. I had met and dated someone as had he, and when we got together it was like old times, but the shadow of the people we had come to care for during our seperation came between us. We are both married to different people today and we still love each other as friends. But you see what I mean? Life goes on and long seperations and time and meeting new people never stop. So after having said all that, my advice to you is to establish a good friendship with her...and then when you visit her in Scotland (How I envy you that!) see where you both stand. I wish you the very best blessings of love and happiness in your life....I hope she's the one for you, you sound like a really nice guy!

Smiles and blessings for a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year with wonderful doors and possibilities opening up for you,

Pami

Answer 2

I think in this case, a second shot is perfectly possible. You didn't break up for any substantive reasons; I say, go for it!