I got out of an 11 year relationship about 3-4 months ago and then got into a rebound relationship shortly after. Well it wasn't a rebound for me but he broke up w/ me so I guess it turned out that way. I still miss him and want him back but he doesn't seem to want anything to do w/ me or at least for right now.
Anyhow... I am really AFRAID of being alone. I am 26 years old and havn't been alone... really.... ever.
I feel that this is happening to make me stronger but at the same time I really don't feel like I can handle it right now. I get severe panic & anxiety. I don't like to be alone. I don't have friends and little contact w/ family. My ex-bf of 11 years and I are keeping contact and are best friends and he is the only glue holding me together right now. Things just did not work out w/ us.
So... I understand WHY God is handing this to me right now but I honestly don't feel equipped to handle it and often hav thoughts of suicide.... will God hand me something I can't handle?
2007-12-23 06:58:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If I pray to God and/or my Guardian Angels and/or Spirit Guide that this is all too much for me right now.... will God help make things easier.... ?
Will you pray for me.... ?
I just can't go through this right now.... I am not ready at this point in my journey.... it's just too much for me right now.
2007-12-23 07:00:25 · update #1
You need counselling, not mythical panaceas.
2007-12-23 07:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't say God has anything to do with it, but that's my style. But I do believe that anything which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. So what you need to do is figure what it will take to keep the situation from killing you. Or, to be more precise, overwhelming you to the point where you kill yourself.
I think you should pick up the phone and call Suicide Prevention right now. I'm serious. Even if you're not really feeling all that close to it, you know you want help to overcome the helpless, hopeless feeling. The people who staff such phone lines have a variety of resources at their fingertips and they really can help you.
If being alone is the fear right now, is there a close friend or relative who would come stay with you, or invite you to their place, if they knew just how bad you are feeling? If so, call that person and don't be shy about asking for help. Generally, people who love you would much rather hear from you than to hear about you after it's too late to help.
Believe me, I know: my husband committed suicide some two years ago. He utterly refused to get any real help, and believed I should be all the help he needed. Obviously, I was not. Other than saying over and over that I did not want him to do it, that I would be devastated (which, of course, I was), I didn't know what to say. I had no suggestions for making his life better that he hadn't heard a hundred times already.
2007-12-23 15:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God brought you to it, he can put you through it. How do you know that you can't handle being alone if you've never tried it? Being alone is not bad....It provides the opportunity for you to learn yourself and it provides the opportunity for you to make yourself stronger so that when the prefect mad does come alone, you're ready to give him your all without baggage from previous relationships.
Did something happen or was taking away from you when you were younger? If so, I can understand your strong attachment to a male. You do need to talk to a professional or build a stronger relationship with God if you have suicidal thoughts when forced to be single.
I'll keep you in my prayers and pray that God heels your pain...
2007-12-23 15:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Short Start 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kno it may feel like 2 much @ times. but God NEVER gives us something that we can't handle!!! You need to pray 4 guidance from him and he will help you out, u have to be completely willing to go along 4 the ride, no matter how hard it may feel at times b/c in the end it'll all be worth and you'll ave something valuable to take with u 4 the rest of ur life!!! Don't underestimate youself, take a few min. to take a breathe and clear ur head, if you ask God 4 help u shall receive it!! I wish u the best of luck and I hope this helps!!
2007-12-23 15:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by volleyball_katie_gurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, because we need to mature as Christians somehow.
But it really is all in your thinking. You are thinking negative thoughts. Something must have happened in this relationship that God felt you needed to get out of it. I know He has someone better planned for you ! Just give it time.
You sound like you were overly-dependent on your ex and very needy too. Maybe those were the things God felt you needed to work on.
Remember-you are the daughter of a King! (Jesus).
And you can overcome anything in your life. You will come out stronger.
2007-12-23 15:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have went through many things in my life that I thought I would never survive, and yet here I am, stronger, wiser and better equipped to handle the problems of life.
I assuree you that God will NOT place more on you than you can withstand.
I also assur you that we, here at Anchor Point Ministries are praying for you.
2007-12-23 15:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by drg5609 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God does sometimes hand us things that we alone are too small to handle. We are meant to work together, watch out over and help one another with these sorts of things. Your family and friends need to know how you feel so that they can help you. Being lonely isn't any fun, but the cure can be as simple as you conciously deciding to go out and meet new people. Maybe that's why God did this...perhaps there's someone out there He wants you to meet!!
2007-12-23 15:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are really weak, So many of us would love to be 26 and only have anxiety instead of actual disability and death close at our heels. You are so ungrateful, tell your story to the lady in the motorized wheel chair and no legs, she is maybe 20 years old or the 70 year old in a nursing home entirely alone after spending his strength and life for his family, people in burn units wreathing in pain, children without any parents! Come on! Go to counseling and reach out to someone else!
2007-12-23 15:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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We have to learn that He wants to carry our burdens for us.
could i offer you these simple suggestions?
1. turn to God in your heart.
2. Ask Him to forgive your sins.
3. sincerely, honestly pray to Him. Talk to Him like a child would talk to a loving Father.
4. Be honest with Him.
5. Read the bible. read read read. It is truly the Word Of God. There is not another book like it in universe.
6. seek out Christians, people who love God.
7. Get involved a good church, make friends.
8. Pray for your ex-boyfriends. Pray that God will bless them and help them.
9. commit your way to Him. If you get tempted to get depressed or think crazy suicidal thoughts, turn back to God.
10. email me if you want to discuss more! God is ABLE!
Really, He wants us to turn to Him about EVERYTHING....and He loves you so much... much more than any boyfriend....
god bless
2007-12-23 15:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by happy pilgrim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, you are not alone. God is with you and he is the one that is keeping it together for you. I realize it doesn't seem like it but He is. God never gives us more than we can handle. You have to surrender to His will and let God handle it. Once you surrender to God's will everything will be alright. When you go through storms it makes you stronger and yes, I will pray for you.
2007-12-23 15:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, We can't handle anything. on our own. You are never alone. Ask God to take control and guide you to what he has for you . He will. Often trials come to make you stronger. Most of us are stronger than we think.
2007-12-24 14:52:34 · answer #11 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋