My grandma who i loved dearly passed away on Saturday.Her funeral is Thursday and i'm debating on whether or not i should take pictures, i don't want to look morbid. I know she is happier now and no longer in pain but i wanna take pictures of her one last time, she was seriously one of the most beautiful people ever. What do you think?
2007-12-23 06:58:06 · 29 answers · asked by Mya S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is your grandma if you want pictures of her funeral then you take them.
I took pictures at my grandmas funeral and I'm so glad I did. I didn't care what anyone else had to say about it either.
A couple of years after the event a few family members asked me for copies. I did get them copied and gave them the copies. The point is this, if you really want pictures then it's your very last chance to have them. Go for it and to hell with what anyone else has to say.
2007-12-23 17:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. I think you should take pictures as long as your grandma would not have mind, you knew what she liked and didn't right so would she agree for you to have pictures of her funeral? If you answer yes then, try to get there as early as possible before others arrive if them seeing you take pictures might make you feel funny. Or wait till the end but by then things are ready to be wrapped up and the bodied is on the way to be buried/cremated so i suggest you get there early if this is what will make you happy.
PS. Honestly what your family thinks doesn't really matter because this is between you and your grandma. Unless you plan on running for political office what people think about you doesn't matter. Period.
Unless its a professor or a boss what they think matters.
People will always have something bad to say about this and some good. so either way you will lose that's why its always important to make yourself happy.
i hope i helped you to come to a decision.
2007-12-23 07:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure some people do. We did take pictures at my grandfathers funeral however it became controversial issue for our family when some of my aunts and uncles started passing them around. A lot of the family didn't like that. I guess maybe you should ask your family and decide together. In my opinion it is just a corpse no longer a living thing so I wouldn't want pictures of that.
2007-12-23 07:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people might think it's morbid and might be upset if you do it at the service. However if you call the funeral home and ask for a few private moments with your grandma before the service you should be able to take pictures then.
2007-12-23 07:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our family takes pictures. My husband was 33 when he died, I have pictures of him in the casket, the pall bearers carrying him out, etc. They really helped me come to terms with things after I got them developed. We took pictures at my dad's funeral also & again, it helped me. We also took pics at my grandma's. Some people may think that it's weird but it's becoming more common. If you think people will make a stink about it, you could go early & take pics (that's what we did). I love the pics that I have because it's helped me come to terms with their deaths. Do what you feel is right for you :) Sorry to hear about your grandma.
2007-12-23 07:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsydayne 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a rather morbid practice that people have started it seems. Personally I would cherish the last picture of her in life, and take some photos of her monument after it is placed in the cemetery. Think how you would feel, do you want people to remember you dead?
2007-12-23 07:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you want to remember your grandmother the way she is now. you want to remember the beautiful person she was in life. my grandmother just passed away this october so i understand your feelings of wanting to capture her one last time, but honestly, i dont think it will do you any good. instead, you and your family should sit down together and make an album with pictures from her life. no one will want to remember the day she left and the days without her, they will want to remember her life. rather than recreating pain, try and get through it by using pictures from her life to make something special.
2007-12-23 07:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by my boy its dagger. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your grandmother. I was ten when mine died and it was a crushing loss. It's up to you if you want to take pictures but I think I would rather have images of my grandmother alive and well rather than dead and in a casket. Also, some people might find it to be in poor taste.
2007-12-23 07:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by North 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you want to take pictures but personally i dont think you should .first alot of family members will see it as disrespect to you grandmother and second people see pictures as happy memories ,i have lost grandparents from both my fathers and mothers side that is the only reason i am responding just look at the old pictures of her smiling and that will comfort you.
May your grandmother rest in peace
2007-12-23 07:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by tony v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want pictures specifically of her, let the funderal director know and he can let you in early so that you can take a few without upsetting other family members.
2007-12-23 07:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋