Last week I was invited to a Holiday Party at a neighbors house. It was cosponsored by the people next door who hate me and my wife. They refuse to speak to me after a problem with snow shoveling a few years ago. The bad neighbor went up and down the street and told everyone who would listen how terrible I was. She is a strong person because I noticed a real chill in my relationships with people on the street since then. So I have withdrawn from the social apect of the neighborhood, mind my own business and enjoy my own friends.
Well a new older couple moved into the street and did not get the memo about how terrible I am. She organized a street wide Holiday Party and started calling us every two days until we finally returned her call and said we would attend. Then I found that the bad people on the street were cosponsors, so I just did not attend. Now the friendly neighbor has called me twice to complain about standing her up at the party.
I should have told her I could not go.
2007-12-23 06:40:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Is this a question? You know what you did wrong. And you certainly perpetuated the idea that you are a terrible neighbor. Why not a letter of apology and a small gift? I wouldn't tell her why you did not attend since it just looks bad to blame the cosponsor when he actually did show up and support the party. I would merely state that unforeseen circumstances prevented you from attending and for that you are sorry you did not extend the courtesy of informing her, you are simply appalled at your own behavior
2007-12-23 06:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
People love to gossip and be in cliques. It doesn't end with high school. Just do what you've been doing and stay away from them.
You should have told the new neighbor you couldn't make it, but at this point, the new neighbor sounds just as rude; someone with manners would not call and complain. Most normal people would assume you have a legitimate reason for not being there, which you do. Forget about her too.
2007-12-23 08:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop by her house and have a talk with her. Tell her about not getting along with or feeling comfortable around your neighbors. Then, apologize for not telling her in advance that you would not be attending. Just make it clear that it had nothing to do with her and everything to do with your other neighbors.
2007-12-23 07:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by _I_love_warm_bananas_ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you certainly should have; what you did is very rude and you now need to appologize before you alienate probably the only possible friend you have in your neighborhood. Your actions and decision also show a remarkable childishness and pettiness. You should have gone, been friendly and pleasant to all and then tried to mend some of your own broken fences...there are two sides to every story and I'm sure your neighbors have very different POVs on what happened...not saying who is right or worng, merely making a comment.
2007-12-23 07:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes, you should have called and said that you would not go any more. You changed your mind without telling them, they could have had things set up and gifts for you and you may had made them feel stupid . Call back and apologize.
And as far as your rude nieghbors are concerned, I would march up to their door and tell them that what goes on between you and them should remain between you and them, and that they are very immature for still causing problems to this day for something that happend a long time ago. And then continue ignoring them until they shape up. You know that truth and thats all that matters.
2007-12-23 07:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have gone if only to build bridges with the others and maybe your BAD neighbour who in fact may not be that bad after all. but you did not so be honest with your new neighbour. tell her why but do NOT badmouth your other neighbour it is sufficient to say that you do not get on. I would not go into detail
2007-12-23 09:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has actually called to complain about your not showing up? I'm surprised. I would certainly tell her about your soured relationship with the bad neighbor.
2007-12-23 06:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by IplayadoconTV 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest and tell her about the strained relations with your neighbor. If she doesn't understand that, forget it. She's as bad as your other neighbor.
2007-12-23 06:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by JD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋