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I was w/ my bf for 2 months when he broke up w/ me. It has been almost 2 weeks since the breakup. I know 2 months isn't a very long time but I am heartbroken and miss him so much. The reason he wanted to end things was b/c things were moving very quickly and our feelings for each other were very strong in such a short amount of time. He said this really scares & overwhelms him. He is also in school ful time and works part time. Things were working great but I think it all just got too much for him and he freaked out and got scared. Before me, he had been single for over 2 years and I think being w/ me took him out of his comfort zone. He also has issues w/ women and really has his guard up (his mom is mentally ill & is very needy of him, his dad is on his 3rd marriage and they have all been gold-diggers, his ex gf of over 2.5 years cheated on him and left him for an older rich guy). So I do understand why his defenses are up.
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After we broke up I didn't know what to do... all I knew was I wanted him back. So I called and texted him A LOT w/ no response from him. Finally a few days ago I called again and we spoke. He said he wasn't ignoring me but he didn't know what to say. He said he really misses me and has really wanted to call me but has stopped himself from doing so. We talked for a while and made plans for that night and basically said we would try things again but take it slow. In the meantime he spoke w/ his brother and then called me and said he just couldn't do it and that if we are together he will neglect everything else in his life b/c all he wants to do is be w/ me. We talked again and he changed his mind again but then once again spoke w/ his brother and said he just couldn't. he wouldn't even agree to see me casually as he said if he sees me it will rekindle things and he will want to get back together.

The night we broke up he was also w/ his brother. When we were together he told me his brother said he should run b/c things were getting too serious w/ us. He & his brother are very close and I think his brother was upset by all the time I was taking up with him. I think his influence is having a HUGE impact on my ex-bf.

I googled "how to get your ex-bf back" today and found that I have been going about this all wrong. Everything I read said not to call and text and pretty much beg him for another chance. It said to LEAVE HIM COMPLETLY ALONE so that he has time to reflect and a chance away to miss me and miss the relationship.
I KNOW he feels strongly for me and we always had a great time together and the chemistry was amazing... we are both VERY attracted to each other! I is really just his fear that is standing in our way.

Do you think if i take this advice and give him space and not contact him anymore that he will possible want me back? It does makes sense that he knows I'm always there pine-ing away for him... he may wonder why my calls have stopped and see there is a REAL risk of losing me. (or did I do too much damage)?

Please tell me what you think....

If you're still awake.... THANKS FOR READING!!!!

UPDATE: I just called him (blocked my #) and he picked up. We talked for a few mins and I asked him if he hated me and he said nto at all. Says he just doesn't know what to say. He said me calling multiple times reminds him of his mom being needy and calling his dad (his mom has wanted his dad back for the past 27 years). He said this stresses him out and feels stressed out when we talk. He said he wants to relax on his hoidays the just got home for christmas and there for a few days). He said to call him in 3-4 days and said bye and hung up. Do you think he even wants me to call him or was he just saying that? Should I wait and see if he calls me? do you think he will call me at some point???

Answer 1

okey honey pls relacks ok. its xmas. u shudnt be so tensed up.
i have been in a relationship for almost 3years and i always feel like calling my bf even though he is busy and stuffs.
just dont call him okay? control urself.
KEEP URSELF SUPERRR BUSYYYYYYYYYY okay
like go outt and come home lateee or do something till ur super tired and all u can think about is sleep.
DO NOT STAY W/o doing anything becoz ur gona be sooo tempted to call him. and he will call u back i guess. im not shur. u just dun call him and see how it goes. dont call for a week okay? just control it honey pleaseee. if after a week he doesnt call then u come back here and ask wad to do. OR if u call him and its like he is too busy and stuffs..... and still is afraid to meet u and stuffs u shud move on. he cant balance family and relationship. if sumday u guys end up marrying , its gona be a huge problem. BTW why is his brother tellin him wad to do? i think tts what his bro is doin..from what i read. doesnt he have a mind of his OWN?!!!!!

my bf.. he wanted a time out once. becoz he wanted to settle things in his life. he wanted his space. its more like.. not about u.. its bout his problems.. his family and all. its pretty hard to understand this thing. i didnt get it.. coz it was my first time facing that crap. so ya.. just let him settle his things first awhile and let him cool it for a week.

Answer 2

You have an amazingly good understanding of what the problem(s) are. Yes, you went too fast. And he is covered up with work, school and family issues. He sounds like a very responsible person who is trying to prioritize in a way that will make his future better. And he obviously has strong feelings for you but he realized he was not able to do all the things that he needs to do and still have the time to give to the two of you AT THIS TIME!
He is overwhelmed and aware that he needs to slow down. I know it's hard for you but give him all the space and time he needs. Don't call; don't send messages. He's already snowed under with obligations and responsibilities. If it's meant to happen, it will. It just may not be as soon as you'd like. Meanwhile, don't sit home; get out with friends and relax!

Answer 3

bloody calm down
your stressing over a relationship that lasted 2 months.
leave him alone

Answer 4

I think you should leave him alone for a while.