I am 19 years old now, but I never plan on getting married? However, i do want to be a father one day, no earlier than when i am 27. Is that wrong of me? I want 2 biologically, and 1 adoptive. I want 2 boys and 1 girl. I plan on raisng them primarily. Am I wrong for this?
2007-12-23 04:44:23 · 22 answers · asked by sam j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Everyone believes different ways. Being married does not make you a better or worse parent. That is up to you and no it is not wrong to have a child and not be married.
It is wrong in the eyes of god but i don't think it is wrong cause i had my son when i was not married (Married now though)
2007-12-23 04:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong for this, you're just still very young, I'd suggest to wait 2 more years and then see if your plans are still the same, if you're still thinking that way, 2 years really make a big difference. And if u do go through with this, well God Bless u for wanting to raise the kids unlike some other men in this world. Good luck to you!!
2007-12-23 05:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by acia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had my 2 children on my own SOLELY and it is a decision that I have never regretted. I was 31 when I had my first one. Even if you have them with a partner the chances are that you would be raising them primarily - the dad who really does share childcare is still relatively unusual. You sound like you have it all worked out - I think that you will prob change your mind about some things closer to the time.
2007-12-23 05:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ellesar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are not wrong for feeling this, but you should consider things in the long run: how will your kids feel never knowing their mommy? you may not be interested in marriage at this time, but maybe as you get farther in your 20's you might find someone special that you just want to be with forever. it would be better for you and for your kids. i (personally) believe that children should grow up with both a mom and a dad. kids tend to be more successful academicly and socially when they have both parents. being a parent is about always looking for whats best in the interest of the child, so if you think you can do whats best for the kids, then go for it.
2007-12-23 05:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Ones feelings are never wrong.
Though you may find out that we can not predict what sex our kids are going to be, or even if when you are older they will allow you to adopt.
You are a kid, sometimes are childish dreams evolve into adult dreams (reality hits). Kids are hard with two parents, for single parents it can be a little more of a challenge. I should know I am a divorced (over ten years now) mom of three, and do not plan on marrying again.
Wish you all the best on your "dream".
2007-12-23 04:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone belives diffrently.My sister in law had four kids with a man and they finally got married about 6years later.My brother has 3kids with his girlfriend and they live together but they don't plan on getting married anytime soon.Theres alot of people in the world now a days that have kids but aren't married.I got married then had kids but everyones different.Some people have kids without getting married.But alot of people do get married and then have kids.But don't worry thats not a problem.
2007-12-23 04:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. If you are financially, emotionally and physically able to do it on your own, then more power to you. Children are a blessing from God and if you want to be a parent, who's to say you can't do it on your own. I hope you get your wish. Who knows maybe later on you'll meet someone who wants to be a dad even if means being a dad to an instant 3 child family. Good luck to you and I hope you are blessed with 3 healthy, beautiful children!!!
2007-12-23 06:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by emotal1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very selfish plan. Children need two parents. If you want to watch your three be half-loved, good luck with that. Be prepared for criticism from people (such as me) who think you are part of the problem with the deterioration of healthy families and later, mentally healthy adults.
2007-12-23 06:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by KnowItAll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes. Children need a mother not only that they need two parents living together. They need to know that when they need you your there. If they need mom they can just go into the next room and talk to her. Kids are not born to be there for their parents. Us parents are here to make a secure world for them. If you don't plan on getting married I think it would be very selfish for you to have children.
2007-12-23 05:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by edelraye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And you are only 19, you might find the one and want to get married. People do change their minds ( a lot too).
2007-12-23 04:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by hot47qt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋