Why do my kids always come back from their dads ill?

Question

They now have bad coughs/colds which is going to last all through christmas so happy christmas everybody. How can i help them get better? I have cough medicine, vicks is there anything else? Bloody typical of my ex husband

One more thing they see their dad once a fortnight and they always come back with some sort of bug i dont let them go to their dads ill cause i am a caring mum

Answer 1

You say that you don't let them go to dad's ill because you are a caring mom. So, if they are ill at dad's & dad is a caring parent, should he keep them at his house?

Kids get sick. That's just the way it is. I'm sure they get sick at your house, too. And, I'm *sure* that you are exaggerating when you say that they are ill *every time* they come back from their father's.

Please, no matter what you do, don't make your kids listen to you saying this kind of thing. First, it makes their stomach hurt just hearing you say bad things about someone they love. Second, it will make them think badly of *you* when they, knowing what's real, hear you saying things that are not real & using them as an argument to prove a point (it's kind of like lying, isn't it?).

Get yourself a new hobby that doesn't involve hating their dad. Your children don't deserve that kind of childhood, they had nothing to do with your poor relationship decision.

Oh, and do you truly not know how to treat your children's illness? Perhaps you should call a doctor to get some advice.

Answer 2

Change in sleeping quarters, ventilation, schedules, etc can all make the little ones sick. Talk to the ex, if he's not too much of a prick, and ask him about their time with him, might mention that he should was the sheets etc before the kids come again so they wont get sick. As for the children sleep, (like thats possible the day before christmas), or just relax, vicks vaporizers or humidifiers work well depending on the issues. Good Luck Merry Christmas!!!

Answer 3

Are you sure they have colds? Sounds more like allergies. Colds take 7-14 days to incubate, so they actually got sick at home. My daughter always got sick at her grandmothers, but after a little investigating, I found out she took naps on the couch, very dusty since no one ever sat on it but her. Maybe the kids are sleeping in a room that doesn't get too much fresh air (not used much). Talk to the ex, have him open up the windows and spray some lysol around. Be grateful he even takes them, my ex never did.

Answer 4

every time my grand kids go to their dads house they are very often sick.children are exposed to many germs in school and daycare.my ex daughterinlaw very seldom has the kids at home with her.in all fairness she has a baby only a few months old and she works also in a clinic , it could be she is bringing germs home herself.make sure they are getting plenty of fluids,bundling up for the weather and eating healthy.extra vitamin c during cold season and stay away from pop,juice or water is better,and fresh fruit.don't blame your ex it may only be a coincidence.tell him of your concerns and make sure your kids aren't allergic to pets your ex may have in his home.good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS! also stress the importance of washing their hands very well with warm but not too hot soapy water every time after they go to the bathroom and before they eat.not washing spreads germs and keeps kids sick it is a habit all kids must learn to be well be clean!!!

Answer 5

I was always sick during Christmas and Thanksgiving.
I have a cold this year right now also.

I don't think it has anything to do with "coming back from dad's ill". It happens.

You're kidding yourself if you think you're "caring" enough to not ever have your kids get sick. Kids get sick all of the time, it's a part of life. Being a "caring mom" doesn't have anything to do with it.

Answer 6

It could be stress. Stress really lowers our immune systems and that takes even longer for a cold/cough/flu to subside. You could talk to your children and see what's going on over there...being yelled at? being ignored? If it turns out to be an unhealthy enviornment for them whether that be phycially or emotionally, you might want to try letting your ex know he has some shaping up to do or you may have to revise the visitation.

Answer 7

Usually people catch viruses because they are not washing their hands frequently enough. Lack of sleep and poor nutrition can also cause suppression of the immune system, which makes one more susceptible to germs. My guess is he lets them stay up later and lets them eat more junk food then you do.

EDIT>Good point Sue made too, about the allergies.

Answer 8

im sure it's more like coincidence, since it takes a few days for symptoms to develop. they r probably geiitn it from school or any public place.then again maybe they r stressed out wondering what else your goingto say bad about their dad.
whatever problems you have with dad, don't voice them around your kids. you'll only push them away from you.

Answer 9

I suggest you to try traditional medicine. It works fine for my kids and has no side effect whatsoever. Here is how to in case you want to try it on your kids:

-Get some raw rice and smash it into powder.
-Cook them until it color turned to black. No oil no water or anything else... just plain raw powder rice.
-Get the kids eat with something (tastes bitter). Bread, sandwitch ..etc.

Answer 10

My daughter has allergies and asthma and she also comes back from her dads sick. I have told him to keep there pets outside when she stays. They also smoke and I have told them over and over to smoke outside. I would suggest talking to your ex and try to figure out why they are always sick at his house. Maybe they are allergic to something at his house or he is just bringing them out to much.