what do i do if i think my father is sick and he will not get better?

Question

i treated my father like crap and i know if ask him to forgive me i will always thnk that he died because of me what should i do? i need help with this one

Answer 1

What you are saying here is confusing; I think you mean to say, "if I DON'T ask him to forgive me, I will always think he died because of me," not the opposite. The simple truth is that, whatever you did, you did not make him sick and you don't control his health. The other truth is, why should you wait until someone is at death's door to make things right and to ask for forgiveness? The request for forgiveness should be accompanied by meaningful change on your part, however, to be REAL - in other words, talk is cheap, but actions speak louder than words! Whatever you did - stop doing!

Sometimes, when people treat others like crap, it is because of baggage in their own lives - substance abuse, bad friends, unwillingness to grow up - you need to undertake a certain amount of honest self-analysis to figure out why you did what you did, in order to get a grip on change. F'rinstance, if you were abusing substances, then if you can tell your dad that you are addressing that - rehab, whatever - before you speak with him, it will really help. But don't wait too long! Time has a way of running out on people.

Answer 2

There is still time. Go make amends now. Stay with him and take care of him till the die he dies, this way he knows that you are truly sorry for what you have done in the past. Tell him you love him and hug him every once in a while. I hope everything gets allright. Good luck.

Answer 3

Its not ur falut at all. Go talk 2 ur dad and say ur sorry. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. I'm sure ur dad will 4give u.