When someone says "I lie but don't pretend" - what do they mean?
2007-12-23 03:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
oh, does "I lie but don't pretend" mean that "I'm always being myself even when I'm lying"?
2007-12-23 03:58:31 · update #1
Maybe they're differentiating between lying - and outright untruth to others- and pretending - potentially misleading the self as well with potentially delusional behavior.
pretending can be harmless- children pretend all the time. But adults pretending things - like being pregnant - well, i have to agree with others, that pretty much equates to a lie.
2007-12-23 04:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can pretend to lie. So you are not really lying. If you are really lying, you are not pretending since you are aware of what you are doing. You can only make a lie appear as the truth.
2007-12-23 03:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by gismoII 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is about intent. The phrase considered any other way becomes an oxymoron.
Children, actors and performance artists can pretend without lying. They can actually tell great truths by pretending.
Polticians, fraud artists and so on don't pretend, they just act out a lie.
2007-12-23 03:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Buke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think "lying" is trying to convince someone that a falsehood is actually Truth, and is always done to gain an advantage over the person/s being lied to.
"Pretending" is acting as if that which we want to be Truth actually is True, and IMO is used for positive reasons such as entertainment or encouragement of others.
Did you know the most effective method of personal change is to act as if (pretend) we already are what we wish to become?
2007-12-23 04:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Champion of Knowledge 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/09469a.htm
A mental reservation is required at time's when nothing else will appear to work.
Example: a parishioner continually arrives at the rectory to ask the same question over and over.
Perhaps, the question requires the advice of the priest but the answer received is not desired.
Again and again the individual returns to the rectory to try and sway the priest's answer.
During the above time the rectory receptionist may say to the individual: sorry, father ___ is not in his office at the moment.
Actually, the priest is two steps away from his office 'you get the idea?
The latter would be called a mental reservation in the hope the individual will finally accept what the priest has said - over and over...
Remember, as a priest one must also be polite and careful.
2007-12-23 03:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kazoo M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying means you have said something that is not true, with intention.
Pretending is like being on a stage and acting out a part, nothing like yourself.
2007-12-23 03:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by geessewereabove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're pretending not to be lying about the lies they've told, and the lie you're listening to at that moment.
2007-12-23 03:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Semp-listic! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lying is deluding others.
Pretending is deluding oneself.
Pretending to lie is not doing a very good job of either. ;-)
2007-12-23 05:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They are lying.
2007-12-23 03:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
No difference.
I lied for years by going to church and acting like I believed the **** I was being served. My spouse challenged me to live more authentically.
No more church.
2007-12-23 03:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋