i am dating a wonderful man and i really like him, the only problem i have is he is a devoted catholic and doesnt belive in sex before marriage. i am also christian but dont have they same views. i was wondering are we able to have oral sex or is that also off limits, i am confused.
i really like him and dont want to end our relationship, i just need to know the boundries.
2007-12-23 03:17:50 · 9 answers · asked by Stacey H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oral sex is still sex. That's why it's called oral sex and not oral gymnastics or oral wrestling or something like that. So yeah, when your boyfriend says he doesn't believe in sex before marriage, that includes oral sex.
You should be grateful that he has set this standard, because as you are dating and if/when you get engaged, you will be get the first-hand experience of watching him resist temptation (you) for the sake of his marriage vows. It is a very powerful experience that enables each of you to prove your marital fidelity before the marriage. I consider it the greatest wedding gift I got from my husband -- it was totally worth it.
2007-12-26 04:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that in this day and age, you have a man who is willing to respect himself and you enough to wait until marriage. It's harder of men than it is on women because society thinks there is something wrong with a man who is waiting until marriage.
Truth is, he's a *real* man. He understands that you are something to be coveted and upheld, not something to use as he wants and when he wants.
You should talk to him about it, but there is so many things you miss if you have a sexual relationship before marriage, the main part is the bonding that will make the two of you stronger and be able to make it through the rough patches in your relationship.
When my fiancee and I started going out, he told me "no longer than three months. I don't wait any longer than that." It's now been three years for him and he's told me his ex-girlfriends and him never just talked, they didn't just hang out and if they were fighting, they'd use sex against each other.
Our first anniversary was the first time he had done something other than a movie, dinner and sex. And all we did was go to a little town and walk around.
There's so many things you can gain by not having sex until after marriage, and that includes oral sex as well--at least until marriage.
But don't force him to give up something so precious and so rare as his respect for you as a woman and for himself and God. And don't end your relationship either over something so trivial as a sexual relationship at this time.
Remember, sex is 2% of a good relationship and 98% of a bad one.
2007-12-26 08:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Aleria: United Year Of Faith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is just that... sex.
I agree 100% with your man. Sex is for marriage only. I am not Catholic but I am a Christian (I'm Non-Denominational) and agree that sex is between a husband and wife and that is what God intended it to be for.
I wouldn't end your relationship over you not having sex. There are other ways of showing your love for one another besides sex.
2007-12-23 11:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Operator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Off-Limits. Actually, even worse. All sex acts before marriage are sins, and isn't there more to life than sex? You shouldn't base your whole future with this guy on whether or not he'll have sex with you. God bless him for trying to resist you. It's hard, you know. Just marry the guy if you want his @#$% that bad. lol. Peace.
2007-12-24 00:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Catholic717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say oral sex would still be off limits. basically, saving sex (of any kind) for marriage is kind of a respect thing. it's waiting until you've found the person you're going to be with for the rest of your life, because you'll be able to establish a deeper connection exclusively with that one person. so if you have a problem with waiting, he probably isn't the guy for you.
2007-12-23 11:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex of any kind is off limits
2007-12-25 15:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by Karenita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect them [im Catholic]
you know, relationships arent all about sex
2007-12-23 11:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by your last resort 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you talk to him about it.
How are the people on Yahoo answers suppose to know what your boyfriend feels on a certain subject?
Solution: Talk to your boyfriend about it.
2007-12-23 14:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Indy Indy Indy!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oral sex is likely not allowed by those standards , maybe you could try and seduce him by wearign sexy clothes or something see if he can resist .
2007-12-23 11:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by R.S. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋