Ever since I have been married to my hubby, his mum, sister & brothers wife(maria) have always made me feel like small. I am a phd student and occasionally model for t.v, I am very happy with my career so dnt appreciate the way they make me feel. There's always comments like "you put on weight", my hubby's sis always make the indirect comments "so & so doesn't need eyeliner because she has beautiful eyes", my sis in law is always praising maria, such as how hard working she is etc. Maria has a baby boy and decided that she would rather be a housewife, she always pressurizes me to have kids, its clear that she struggles being a mum so it irritates me that she make these suggestion. I try so hard to stay away from my sis in law & maria but yesterday my sis in law came to see me, she was so nice, she even did my nails for me. Maria came a few hours later and asked if I could lend her a skirt, this was my response "I'm a size 8, it won't fit", Maria is alot larger than me btw.
2007-12-23 03:16:20 · 4 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so maria became angry and said that I implied that she was fat, which wasnt the case, I would never do that, I know how it is to be called fat, and it hurt me in the past. So she made a scene and she started calling her husband and cried, making me feel bad. I really dnt need this, I dnt need these people coming and disturbing me, I was fine till they came. What I've noticed about Maria is that she is always finding an excuse to make me feel bad about something.
2007-12-23 03:18:34 · update #1
saying that something won't fit, doesn't mean I was implying she was fat, I know her size because we go shopping together.
2007-12-23 03:24:27 · update #2
Sounds like they're normal and you have the problem. You did tell that girl she was fat by saying it won't fit, instead of letting her come to that conclusion. You are the mean one.
2007-12-23 03:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby needs tio help come to the rescue and interject with his family on how he feels about the situation as well. He needs to defend you and talk to all of them and make them realize you are a different person and not having kids is for the benefit of your career for the time being. Maria needs to grow up. She needs to realize not everyone can be lucky enough to be chosen to be a model.
2007-12-23 03:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going outright and saying it to their face. sometime's all it takes is to be very forward with someone and then they'll stop..
2007-12-23 03:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-12-23 03:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋